summergirl Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Here's my previous post to see the background story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t66003/ My ex still wants to talk to me. I've never called him again in the last couple of weeks, and never answered his calls or replied his texts anymore. But I'm not sure if this is the right way or am I strong enough to do this. For how long should I stop to contact him and should I go totally NC or LC? And should I tell him to stop contacting me or just keep ignoring his calls/texts until I ready to talk to him again? I *think* I've 80% healed from this dump but still sad and miss him a lot sometimes. Any advice? Thanks.
ChuckDee33 Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Summergirl, you and I have similar experiences it seems. I too feel that I can't cut my ex out of my life all the way. But at the end of the day if our ex's just aren't a source of happiness in our lives anymore. We want them to be so badly but they're just not in that position anymore. If you can handle phone conversations without getting too much into relationship crap then go for it. As far as seeing him I would not do it as long as he is dating someone else. I moved an hour away so I don't worry about seeing her and we both agreed it would be difficult for both of us the way things are now. So just go with whatever feels right in your mind and heart. I know sometimes those two can pull you in different directions but just go with the flow. If you really want him to come knocking at your door, cut him out 100% and wait a while. He'll probably either want to try again or he'll let you go, in which case so should you because then it's like trying to walk up the escalator that's going down.
markraine Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Yea, but I was in the military, we love running uphill =P The whole reverse-escalator thing is actually a welcome challenge for me, although there is no obstacle I've ever had to overcome as great as a girl's refusal to be with you anymore. I've rapelled out of helicopters, fast-roped into a combat zone, been shot at, had mortars land around me, and yet nothing strikes me as difficult as figuring out how to make a woman fall back in love with you =P
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