dwsc2016 Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 I dated my EX for 9 months and it ended about two months ago. I'm 25 and she's 24. She was saying that she was confused about whether or not she wanted to be single and that she was unsure if she could be in a relationship right now. I simply told her that I wanted to be with someone who was sure they wanted to be with me and I left. I immediately went no contact and a month went by and she texted me saying that she was sorry if she hurt me and that she's confused about what she wants right now and how I'm an amazing person blah blah blah. She asked if we could meet so we could talk and she could give me my key. I like a total idiot agreed. She came over and said all the same stuff. She said that she sees all her friends on Facebook getting married and that the next step for us would be to move in together and she just wasn't sure she was ready for all that. She said she thinks she just needs to be single right now while it's not weird and that she sees our paths crossing again one day. Sounds a lot like she has GIGS to me. It was tough seeing her. It felt like I went back to square one in my recovery process. I went no contact again right after that. Fast forward to now. It's been a month since she came over and she texted me asking to go out to dinner and grab drinks. Now I miss her terribly and I want her back. However I know that's a pipe dream and I'm on here because I just need support. I just need reassurance in ignoring her. I also just wanted to write about what happened and get it out since I haven't really talked to anyone about it. So please just reassure me what I'm doing is right and make me feel good about ignoring her. Thanks and I hope you guys have a great day.
HumanMachine Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 DON'T DO IT How many other guys has she been banging since you split? None? Come on.. She's using you as the easy option DECLINE her invite! And block her!!
fromheart Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 I dated my EX for 9 months and it ended about two months ago. I'm 25 and she's 24. She was saying that she was confused about whether or not she wanted to be single and that she was unsure if she could be in a relationship right now. I simply told her that I wanted to be with someone who was sure they wanted to be with me and I left. I immediately went no contact and a month went by and she texted me saying that she was sorry if she hurt me and that she's confused about what she wants right now and how I'm an amazing person blah blah blah. She asked if we could meet so we could talk and she could give me my key. I like a total idiot agreed. She came over and said all the same stuff. She said that she sees all her friends on Facebook getting married and that the next step for us would be to move in together and she just wasn't sure she was ready for all that. She said she thinks she just needs to be single right now while it's not weird and that she sees our paths crossing again one day. Sounds a lot like she has GIGS to me. It was tough seeing her. It felt like I went back to square one in my recovery process. I went no contact again right after that. Fast forward to now. It's been a month since she came over and she texted me asking to go out to dinner and grab drinks. Now I miss her terribly and I want her back. However I know that's a pipe dream and I'm on here because I just need support. I just need reassurance in ignoring her. I also just wanted to write about what happened and get it out since I haven't really talked to anyone about it. So please just reassure me what I'm doing is right and make me feel good about ignoring her. Thanks and I hope you guys have a great day. The thing to make very clear to her, is that you're not interested in friendship, and cannot be her 'buddy.' If you become friends with this girl while you are still wanting to be with her, you're opening up yourself to a whole world of hurt. Tell her your not wanting to be her friend and you're only interested romantically. If she ever feels the same way, she can let you know. Then taks off and do not reach out to her, or ever look back. Do NOT get friend zoned. 1
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