"I don't know... I'm gonna try because he's been begging me for such a long time..."

[Eddie Gonzales]

My best friend, a girl, had a buddy who she called her brother. They've known each other for over three years, but she's known he's been in love with her for over a year now. During that time, she had a fling with someone who lived in another country. It didn't work out. She then started a fling with someone who lived in another city and who, as it turns out, only used her as a rebound.

 

She recently met a guy who's a bartender and fell for him and he totally ignored her and even though she tried to get with him, showing up at places where he was, at the bar he works in, he ended up rejecting her also.

 

Three guys in a row, all ended with her being hurt and confused. So her best-buddy, the one who's been in the friend-zone with her, whose feelings she knew about all this time, who she brought with her to the place where the bartender worked, begged her recently to give him a try, saying that he would be better than all the guys she's been trying with etc. and even though she said just three weeks ago that she would never ever consider kissing him because that would make her throw up, she just announced that she decided to give him a chance.

 

The problem is, her words were "I don't know... I'm gonna try because he's been begging me for such a long time..."

 

All her friends have been shocked by her decision, because she's known about his feelings for such a long time, dated other guys in front of him and totally treated him like her brother, and now suddenly she makes this decision after he BEGS her.

 

Is she only doing this because she's lonely and is she using him? None of us think she could suddenly fall in love with him out of the blue especially considering she's known him for such a long time and has never even implied he was anything but her BFF.

 

Also, all her girlfriends have boyfriends and she's been complaining about it for quite some time now. Everything just points to her being incredibly desperate.

 

What do you guys think? Is she doing the right thing?

[Erik30]

This is basically what a lot of clueless friendzoned guys are hoping for will happen some day, but I don't think it will work out for your buddy. She now feels hurt and is lonely, so she needs an ego boost, but sooner or later she'll probably dump him for another guy. (Who is more her type, because she's saying "meh, why not" about your friend)

[smackie9]

Your GF is having a bad run of luck because she was trying to get with out of town guys and a bartender both are horrible choices. Her settling for friend zone guy is just another poor choice. As for the guy....he is an idiot but I guess fools rush in. His heart is just going to be stomped on....he is another one making poor choices.

 

IMO just stay out of it and let nature take it's disastrous course.

[Eddie Gonzales]

Your GF is having a bad run of luck because she was trying to get with out of town guys and a bartender both are horrible choices. Her settling for friend zone guy is just another poor choice. As for the guy....he is an idiot but I guess fools rush in. His heart is just going to be stomped on....he is another one making poor choices.

 

IMO just stay out of it and let nature take it's disastrous course.

Come to think about it, her last BF (not counting the ones who were flings) was a guy who she was BFF's with for a couple of months and they started dating. It ended with her falling for that guy from another country and breaking up with her BF, stating "I don't think I'm in love with him."

 

So, perhaps you're right. She's basically doing the same thing all over again just with a much closer friend.