Broken bear Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 So my girlfriend decided she wanted to split a few months ago after 4years of going out. We have a 3 year old so we still see and chat most days because of him (we need to stay friends for his sake). The problem is I'm obsessed with her, I can't stop thinking about her. Doesn't help I have a sick oerverted mind so I've checked to see if she's using her sex toys again. I found them and I know she's using them, I've checked the batteries when I'm round. We've had a little talk about things and how I'm not coping etc and I said about the toys (I never had a problem with them at the time I enjoyed using hem on her) and she says she's not used or thought that way in months. Thing is I know she's lying, I know she's just bought new ones and I've seen her use them via my spy cam I ordered. I know that's disgusting that I got a spy cam and hid it in her bedroom but I can't help myself. Today I checked her old phone and I've seen pics of her kissing a guy even tho she says she doesn't want to feel that way about anyone. I'm boiling in side and I'm going to erupt. I know I need to go see professional help as what I'm doing is disturbing me, I turn everything I do into thinking about her. What can I do I need to see her and talk to her for the sake of our son.
Blanco Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 1) You don't need to be friends with her. You need to be friendly with her. Find a new living situation and only communicate with her as it relates to your kid. Best to do this via email, not texting. 2) Stay out of her business. I know what it's like to have that monkey on your back, but ask yourself if you have felt better about things any time you've gone digging for information? Probably not.
Author Broken bear Posted September 19, 2016 Author Posted September 19, 2016 1) You don't need to be friends with her. You need to be friendly with her. Find a new living situation and only communicate with her as it relates to your kid. Best to do this via email, not texting. 2) Stay out of her business. I know what it's like to have that monkey on your back, but ask yourself if you have felt better about things any time you've gone digging for information? Probably not. I live in a delegate village about 15minutes away but I want to see my son as often as I can depending on work. Our arrangement is if I'm home I look after him at her house till she gets back from work then I leave (my work means I'm on call so could and can get phone calls at any time). If I'm away her family help until she gets home from work. I don't want to not see my boy as he shouldn't miss out on daddy time because of her changing her mind. 2. It really does bother me and I get myself into a right state but I just can't help myself. I've told her to just be honest with me as I really don't know how I'll react when she meets someone but it'll be better if I know early rather than have it hidden from me.
Zahara Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 2. It really does bother me and I get myself into a right state but I just can't help myself. I've told her to just be honest with me as I really don't know how I'll react when she meets someone but it'll be better if I know early rather than have it hidden from me. 1. She doesn't have to be anything with you. You both are no longer together and she has a right to date anyone she wants without being answerable to you. 2. It won't be hidden, you'll have the spy cam to keep you informed of who she's with. Yes, please seek professional help. You need to find away to curb this unhealthy obsession. 2
VeveCakes Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 What you are doing is illegal and extremely disturbing. Remove the spy cam. Get help now. 3
DarrenB Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 What you need to do for the sake of your son, is to not do anything that will jeopardize him going straight to her or to the Social Services... Continue what you're doing and I'm sure you might end up in a place you don't want to be in. You just simply need to forget. If she wishes to be satisfied and pleasured by something/someone else then you will have to respect that. We all have different needs and virtues. Yes, you were together for 4 years and you've had a child together, it is very unfortunate these things happen; but they do. You must accept that and move on with your life, most likely w/o her. Doing things like you've said will not help the cause or situation, it'll aggravate it and you'll literally have NO chance of reconciliation if there is even an average possibility there. Thinking about them constantly is one thing, but it's a normal thing to do. It will gradually help you emotionally and mentally in the future, you just have to be ready to be able to progress with life without her in yours. I'm sure you'll be fine, give yourself time and keep occupied. 1
Author Broken bear Posted September 19, 2016 Author Posted September 19, 2016 What you are doing is illegal and extremely disturbing. Remove the spy cam. Get help now. Don't worry the cheap eBay crap doesnt even work
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Toodaloo Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 Broken you are whipping yourself up into a frenzy. Stop. You do need to seek help because if you carry on as you are then you are going to get arrested and have your access to your son removed. 2
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