Petunia20 Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 Hello LS! It's been a long time since I've posted . My life did not end after my break and I somehow made it through ok. 30 pounds lighter and a great career. Unfortunately I've yet to find someone and fall in love again. I've casually dated and had great times but have not been able to find anyone that I could fall in love with again. It's hard dating nowadays I think. These dating apps make everything so easy to become just a hook up. I'm forgetting how it even feels to be loved and to feel comfort while being held. I feel like a robot with no emotions . Well two weeks ago after not looking up my ex for almost 2 years I looked him up and found that he has married the woman he cheated on me with. I took it well at first but have broken down a couple of tims since . I saw a clip of their wedding video online and they used a Guns N Roses song. That band used to be ours . I also saw a picture of her wearing a necklace that looks exactly like one he got me and in fact I still own. Which she knew about, I find that strange. It's like she's still taunting me that she won. I somehow think that I will always be part of their story no matter what happens. I was with him when he cheated with her, how can they live so comfortably knowing how their relationship started? I, in no way want him back but I'm sad to know that they're happy and I'm not, well in the romantic way at least. They wronged me but yet they got their happy ending . All these old feelings are coming back to me now and I'm finding it hard to cope. Any advice or words of encouragement will help . Thanks for reading! 1
Chi townD Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 You get your revenge. And the best revenge that you can get is to lead a damn good and adventurous life. You lost 30 pounds! Great! You have a career! Awesome! Now, it's time to do more. Get new hobbies. Something that you will enjoy doing. A lot of times, there are clubs in your area with people that have a shared interest. So, sign up for co-ed softball, or a running club, or cycling club. Take dive lessons or a cooking class. Whatever your interest is in. Then, travel! Big world out there. Go see it! Think of a place you always want to visit. Make a plan, save for it, then go!!!! Have fun! Forget about dating sites. Chances are, you're going to meet the right guy when you least expect it. But, he's never going to find you if you don't put yourself out there. So, don't worry about "Mr. Right" and he will be "Mr. Right" because he will come around at the right time in your life. Until then, enjoy yourself! Fall in love with yourself! Because, if you love yourself, it makes it easier for others to fall in love with you too. 2
Sunnymae Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 If they are just recently married, they may still be in the honeymoon stage. Two years from now it may be a completely different story. I'm of the opinion that leopards don't change their spots, once a cheater, always a cheater. Especially since your ex sounds like he a superficial person, and may cheat if his girl ends up putting some weight. Although, she was partly responsible for the demise of your relationship and for her to knowingly go for another woman's man even is a major character flaw, they definitely deserves each other, he's no loss. I'm willing to bet that one of them will end up cheating on the other, and that their happy beginnings at your expense may end up with one of them being heartbroken, and inevitably end in divorce. Things are not always as they appear. On the other hand it sounds like you have a lot going for you. You're educated, have a job you like, you've lost weight. BYW What OLD have you tried? If it's Tinder then yeah, I agree most of the men on there are looking to hookup. Maybe try POF. That's how my ex finds girls that are interested in LTR. There's more substance to these men's profile. Or how about at your work place, that's how I met both my ex. You've been doing all the right things, by working on your career, and on yourself. Now is your time to find someone. Don't give up but don't get desperate either, and don't let their perceived happiness stand in your way. 1
whatnot Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 4 years. You have one to go. You'll meet someone this year (one man's opinion) Maybe they are happy. wish good things for them. (it will help you) good luck
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