OldSoulBiz Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 Batgirl, you have a huge advantage in that situation you're in; And that's your brother. Most people wish they had someone who can tell them what the other person is thinking. To make use of your brother, you should express the feelings you have and be honest with him. Tell him you're very much liking his friend, and want more than "just friends." Tell him why as well (Alex is nice, very caring etc.) since brothers are protective of their sisters in general. Ease him into it basically. Now obviously you're gonna be counting on your brother to help you with that situation. So hopefully he's someone you can count on. Does that make sense?
introverted1 Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 I have a slightly different take that I hope, for your sake, is wrong. But based om the feedback you got from your brother, I think Alex sees you as either a good friend or, worse, a rebound. He may not be aware that you are a rebound (i.e., I am not saying he is deliberately going to deceive you) but when someone takes on the role of "healer" it is not an easy transition to the role of gf. Plus, you have the added concerns of what any relationship between you and Alex might do to either of your relationships with your brother. Personally, I'd next this.
Noproblem Posted September 22, 2016 Posted September 22, 2016 I have a slightly different take that I hope, for your sake, is wrong. But based om the feedback you got from your brother, I think Alex sees you as either a good friend or, worse, a rebound. He may not be aware that you are a rebound (i.e., I am not saying he is deliberately going to deceive you) but when someone takes on the role of "healer" it is not an easy transition to the role of gf. Plus, you have the added concerns of what any relationship between you and Alex might do to either of your relationships with your brother. Personally, I'd next this. My sister has the same sense when I told her about this girl story I told her the guy thought she was the kindest girl and that's how girls should be and my sister was like oh oh.. When a guy think of a girl as really sweet or truly kind, he might see her as just a friend, but we don't know the truth.. I guess only time will tell!
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