unagedtiger Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 I know "window of opportunity" exists where if you take too long to ask, she will automatically reject you after losing interest. As in she either thinks you are not interested enough or confident enough to make a move? But then, can that window be as little as minutes? I went to a restaurant and the waitress went out of her way to say "hi" today. she also has been checking me out and giggling in the past. today was the moment where she literally lingered around me in proximity. but i was in a terrible mood to continue the conversation after she answered to my chat initiation. so i delayed for about 20 minutes until we all shifted our positions, after i settle my mind, and then asked her out and she rejects. she never went out of her way to say "hi" to me when she is not the one serving my table. or linger around me. i just blew it, didn't i? but come on. 20 minutes?
Ami1uwant Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 I'm confused.... You are thinking of asking the waitress out after 20 minutes??? I don't judge waitresses because part of their job is being nice and friendly so I don't read more into it. As for the window of opportuity...it's not measured in mnutes.
Author unagedtiger Posted September 19, 2016 Author Posted September 19, 2016 I'm confused.... You are thinking of asking the waitress out after 20 minutes??? I don't judge waitresses because part of their job is being nice and friendly so I don't read more into it. As for the window of opportuity...it's not measured in mnutes. i see, how is it measured in then? yes we have ran into each other a few times in the past. 20 minutes after not continuing the talk i had with her.
smackie9 Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 She is a waitress.....they chat up customers to get tips.....you over stepped and ask her out.....she doesn't want that kind of attention so she backed off. She never had "Interest" she was just doing her job....making he customers feel good and welcomed.
Author unagedtiger Posted September 19, 2016 Author Posted September 19, 2016 She is a waitress.....they chat up customers to get tips.....you over stepped and ask her out.....she doesn't want that kind of attention so she backed off. She never had "Interest" she was just doing her job....making he customers feel good and welcomed. it was panera-bread. there's no tip there. if she got the vibe, she could have had others deliver food instead. but i guess you are right in most cases. just that she recently change her behaviors around me. oh well.
Versacehottie Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 OP, you are relating two incidences which may not be related or connected. A)the amount of time it takes to ask a girl out B) rejection. There may be no real correlation. She could have rejected you just as easily in 2 minutes if she didn't want to go out. She could have just as easily said yes after 20 months if she did want to go out. The only real conclusion you can draw is that she doesn't want to go out. BTW, it's failed logic for the most part to say that failure to act quickly gets you a rejection. I think a lot more girls respond to a build up and wanting something--so if you can do that whether it is in a period of 20 minutes or over several weeks you might still have a good result. Good luck
Author unagedtiger Posted September 19, 2016 Author Posted September 19, 2016 thanks. i think i rushed a bit. realized didn't even do much formal introduction.
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