penny_lane Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Hey guys! I hope everyone is well. I could really use with some of your great advice! Basically I've been close with this guy for nearly 5 years. We met in London when he was at the games here, I didn't know who he was at first as we just met randomly in a pub. Since then we met up a few more times whilst he was in the uk as we had a great connection. We havnt seen each other since but talk almost every day. I live in the UK and he lives On the other side of the world. Therefore it's very hard to start any kind of relationship. We have always had a Spark and feelings for one another, even when we are both in relationships we remain close friends. But more recently we have spoke about more serious things such as potentially being together , he says I'm a special and important person to him and he finds it hard not being able to see each other and would want to be with me if he lived here. However his career is in the country he is living now and I can't/wouldn't expect him to move and leave everything, but I have a good life in the U.K. too. The hard part aswell is that he does have a girlfriend at the moment, so when he talks like that it does make me feel bad. He says he loves her a lot but something is missing that he feels he has with me. Do you think he's leading me on as he already has a girlfriend that he 'loves' or does he really have feelings ? I don't know what he really wants or what to do from here? Many thanks
smackie9 Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 You have been doing this back and forth stuff for 5 years.....the reality of it, it's a waste of time. He has a GF now, and you both have your own lives to live. A relationship will never happen. You need to cut the cord and move on. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Get your head out of the clouds. This is NOT going to go anywhere! HE is not going to move to you and you better not make the mistake of moving to him. You are a distraction for him. Let me ask you. How do feel about a man who says he loves his gf, but communicates with you about the future? DO you respect that type of behavior? Also, is he more likely to benefit from emigrating to your country or no? Stop communicating with him. Respect that he has a gf and move on.
BaileyB Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 If he has a girlfriend, then nothing should happen. That's just the bottom line. If he ends his relationship with this other girl, then you would be more open to trying a relationship with him... And then, only time will tell.
Shanex Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 Holding on the moment he breaks up with his current girlfriend on the other side of the world, which seems to be what you're waiting for, all seem a bit delusional. 5 years of (I assume) virtual communication... he's probably a great friend and a great memory from a night in a pub then, but if I was in your shoes I wouldn't hold my breath. LDR hardly ever work. If he's not going to move.. this will go nowhere.
Ami1uwant Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 You are wasting your time here. I could see communcaring fir a while given the distinct but at some point there us a make or break 9n trying a relationship. Waiting fir 5 yrs is eating your valuable time.
Omei Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 Would never accept a man into my life knowing he's got a gf while talking to me lol you would be his gf in two years and he'd be chatting with some other lady. You know why he picks you because you're far far away where you could never hurt his relationship with his emotional cheating.
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