Author jiglypuff Posted September 19, 2016 Author Posted September 19, 2016 Yeah seriously, it sounds as if he was pushing you to end it! Or to confront or something! I mean making a date with another chick right in front of you? A man really cannot get much lower than that. Immediate dealbreaker, talk or not talk. I see. I'm just not sure about the situation between them because I heard somethings like "you can tell me what you want to learn and I can make a plan" lol. "learn" sounds super funny now. And before things get inclusive I don't think I have the right to confort him ~ Should talk about "us" ... I think
Author jiglypuff Posted September 19, 2016 Author Posted September 19, 2016 How do you know he has stopped? I said in the 1st post that I sneakily stalked his phone ... and I did notice the date and time. He read all the messages but didn't reply .. so Idk may be he's just too busy to answer
katiegrl Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 I see. I'm just not sure about the situation between them because I heard somethings like "you can tell me what you want to learn and I can make a plan" lol. "learn" sounds super funny now. And before things get inclusive I don't think I have the right to confort him ~ Should talk about "us" ... I think You have the right to do and say anything you want.... especially if you sense something seems *off* which that certainly does! Big time! Who cares what he thinks, you need to take care of YOU and stop walking on eggshells with him or any man! How do you expect a man to respect you if you cannot respect yourself? Yes talk to him, ASAP. Take off the rose-colored blinders first, and do not accept anything that sounds like BS. Be prepared to walk if necessary. Take care of YOU! 2
Deidre Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 But since that day, he stopped talking to girls on Tinder ... Does it make any sense then? harrump! I guess I view it like this...if you have to babysit a guy, he's not the right guy. He sounds like he needs to be ''told'' the right way to treat you. I'm not really good with that, personally. I bring myself to a relationship, and if a guy wants to be with me, he needs to bring his adult self too. lol Maybe take it slow. I think you really like him, so I know...the heart tells our mind what to do. But, sometimes, your mind needs to take control. 2
Fruitee Posted September 19, 2016 Posted September 19, 2016 If you've seen him swiping girls on Tinder, I'd just end it. If you confront people who are sneaking around, they're not going to confess to what they're doing. They'll lie their way out of it. That's just me. Next! Exactly! He will just say something: Oh no Im not using Tinder! Even if you show them screenshots.
Author jiglypuff Posted September 20, 2016 Author Posted September 20, 2016 And he will just say something like I just swipe for fun.. Men are only as faithful as their options. I will have a talk with him. Of course not about trying to confort him.. But just to make sure what kind of rls we are in and see if I can handle the situation.
Fruitee Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 ^ But still he will for sure say you are in exclusive rl. Because that is what u wanna hear even his actions dont match.
Author jiglypuff Posted September 22, 2016 Author Posted September 22, 2016 Now he's acting weird. We don't usually text everyday, just text to set up date - and talk a lot later. So on Wed, I sent him a cute .gif, then he sent me a message : grab a coffee? - After lunch I said, so we met, we talked and laughed and joked. I told him my opinion about dating later, but didn't ask about Tinder and those kind of specific stuffs. We texted later, about his work or so. We don't usually text and he's usually a bad texter so I may be a lit bit sensitive when he didn't reply my last message later yesterday? He's quiet busy recently I think, working and about to hold a new boxing class by his own. I told him that he should tell me about about it later *excited emoticon* - No replied. So weirddd that everything I've seen as normal is annoying now... ~~
katiegrl Posted September 22, 2016 Posted September 22, 2016 Now he's acting weird. We don't usually text everyday, just text to set up date - and talk a lot later. So on Wed, I sent him a cute .gif, then he sent me a message : grab a coffee? - After lunch I said, so we met, we talked and laughed and joked. I told him my opinion about dating later, but didn't ask about Tinder and those kind of specific stuffs. We texted later, about his work or so. We don't usually text and he's usually a bad texter so I may be a lit bit sensitive when he didn't reply my last message later yesterday? He's quiet busy recently I think, working and about to hold a new boxing class by his own. I told him that he should tell me about about it later *excited emoticon* - No replied. So weirddd that everything I've seen as normal is annoying now... ~~ Why are you still with him? I thought you were gonna talk to him? Sorry if this sounds a bit harsh, but I kinda have no sympathy for you at this point cause you were warned about him by many on this board, and chose to ignore. 1
deep_night Posted September 22, 2016 Posted September 22, 2016 i dont get this about some cultures. how can you shag a person and not being exclusive? and that being acceptable? isnt it a bit of like a user/player mentality to have? i mean i would assume that if i shag somebody we're exclusive. and if he shags other women at the same time as me, even if we know each other for 3 days, then he's cheating. THE END. i would have ended this a long time ago
Author jiglypuff Posted September 23, 2016 Author Posted September 23, 2016 A quick coffee in the lunchtime seem not to be a perfect timing to talk about it so I did told him my point of dating to see if he could get it, and well I think he couldn't or idk. But If he start pulling away then I guess it won't be the case anymore. We've been spending weekend together for recent 2 months or so, and I wanna see how's this weekend going. Or may be I'm just so into him and I'm afraid that if I try to push, then he will pull away since he said taking it slowly is very important to him. Tbh it confused me! And @deep_night : I call it casual dating or at least he wants me to call it so. Because once I get inclusive, I won't let things go that way and I don't think sex is the point here because I don't usually date a guy though.
Fruitee Posted September 23, 2016 Posted September 23, 2016 ^ Yeah but he is getting the sex though no matter if youre exclusive or not. So he has nothing to lose. Youre the one with the feelings.
Author jiglypuff Posted October 3, 2016 Author Posted October 3, 2016 So I haven't talked to him but may be he smell something then he become nicer and more fishy too. No more Tinder but a few days ago, I saw a girl sent him message, but he just deleted whole conversation right away. His ex gf is back in town, they still stay in touch and it annoyed me. We still spend friday and saturday together, talk about whole week's plan. He also started being curious about my life,about friends who I'm talking to, friends who I hang out with but still I don't see enough serious vibes from him. So I decided to talk to him to see what it would lead to and see if we are looking for the same thing. He can stay or he can leave but I guess I should have myself well prepared for the worst result. I couldn't make myself believe in any better things lol
Fruitee Posted October 3, 2016 Posted October 3, 2016 ^ He is asking about your friends etc so he dont match them..
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