What do you do when you are being checked out?

[thedudeyo]

I know we all check people out , maybe a little glance or a good long stare. I don't know much about dating or approaching the entire thing I'm just inexperienced.

 

Question I have for you guys is what do you do when you are being checked out constantly by women and also ladies what would you expect from something like this? I mean i constantly constantly get the flirting the smiling . I notice it a lot. As simple as girls in work ( won't be working for long there just 2 week again) they always smile and talk to me, I noticed it more because whenever I look at they they are looking at me and smile . wow I am sounding so vain right now.

 

Anywhey that's how its been with me lately with girls at stores at malls and most places I go. I guess what I really wanna get out of this topic is how do I take it further. I don't mind dating right now so I'd like to and I don't have a problem talking to women. Guess making a move is my problem. So educate me please

[Buddhist]

When you catch them smiling at you say 'hi'. Not rocket science. At some point in the conversation that follows say.....'hey do you want to catch up for coffee sometime?'

[Osmium13]

I have a bit of a panic and get away as fast as possible. I've never been able to handle unexpected attention well

[smudge21]

I generally think that I've got food on my face or have spilled coffee down my shirt, that's why they're looking and smiling. That generally leads to wanting to find a mirror quickly.

 

I guess if you haven't just eaten or drank coffee, and your zip is up, then the next step is simply to smile back or say hi is in speaking distance. They've opened the door a bit, you've stepped up, now it's up to them to respond.

[Eternal Sunshine]

I often smile at men/women as a friendly gesture and it has nothing to do with flirting.

[preraph]

Let me start with what NOT to do. You see a couple of girls in the mall and they are looking. What you don't do is make some sleazy remark like you think they're sexy or look good.

 

What you do is be friendly and casual and just smile and say hi and have respect uppermost in your mind. Then you hope you run into them again later. Or you can casually ask them where the food court is (or wherever you are, just ask them where something is around there). The bonus to that is then they know where they might run into you later. So like if it's on the street: "Hey, do you the area? Do you know if there's any good sandwich places around here besides fast food?" Just wing it. But talk to them, but not in a pickup-y way. They might even volunteer to show you where and then you could offer them lunch or a coffee.

[Shanex]

I often smile at men/women as a friendly gesture and it has nothing to do with flirting.

 

Same. Except I don't smile the same way to men for some reasons...

 

If it's male clerk, cashier, banker, sure I'll smile and be polite.

 

Women I randomly walk by in the street and smile to me, I smile back. And then I think to myself ''Dude, could have had some PUA line'', but I am not like that.

 

I really appreciate being smiled at, because I know what that means coming from the ladies, but my awkward and timid personality prevent me from approaching them out of the blue.

[JustGettingBy]

I usually smile back, if I really like her, I'll add in a wink. If I'm at work when this happens (more frequent than you'd think, but then again, one of my jobs is at a gym), I'll likely give a trace smile, and then ask if she need something or has a question, since that's a situation where I'd want to appear more professional.