Lexx1981 Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 So i was recently on a LDR with this girl from Canada for 4 months.We met in mexico and from then, there was a spark between me and her and she came here in NY. When she came back in Canada, things got difficult for her. She is a college student. Well, she had a rough time looking for a job. I had came there to see her living situation and i felt so bad. So i stepped up and help her financially for 3 months. Paid for alot of stuff for her( dnt want to go on details). However, things were getting difficult. She would never pick up her phone, only in the morning and sometime during the day. She would get upset at times and tell me i was needy and jealous even though i have explained to her that as long as she was honest to me, i wouldnt mind what she does. However, she just continued not to show any care and turn everything around to me to make me look bad. Well, to summarize everything, i found out through instagram that she had lied to me. She told me at one point she was studying but on her pics, she went out for drinks. Assumingly, she had been lying to me so many times (i dont know if she did cheated on me) but since she did lied before, i assumed throughout our relationship she has been. I was soo furious knowing how she made me look like a fool and just used me financially. I did offer to help but in good faith. But not to be taken advantage of. I said so much nasty insults and because my mind was clouded with anger i even left a threatening message on her voicemail. I felt so guilty doing that so texted to apologize to her. I did it twice to make sure i sincerely apologize. However, no response. I understand. Im hurt knowing that i loved this girl but in return she decieved me and lied to me. Im in NC for two weeks now. However, i feel like i want to get some answers and tell her that she just used me. What should i do?
Blanco Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Four months? Long-distance? Different countries? Sorry, I didn't even read the rest. 4
sooshi Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 (edited) You've known her for four months. You made the choice to cover for her financially. You made the choice to pay for lots of stuff. She didn't make you do anything. She wasn't very nice to you. It doesn't feel like you two were in a relationship. Block her and move on. Stay single for a while. Work on your self-respect. You're confusing love for attachment/codependency. Next time, set better boundaries. Take care. Edited September 18, 2016 by sooshi 4
bubbaganoosh Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 You've known her for four months. You made the choice to cover for her financially. You made the choice to pay for lots of stuff. She didn't make you do anything. She wasn't very nice to you. It doesn't feel like you two were in a relationship. Block her and move on. Stay single for a while. Work on your self-respect. You're confusing love for attachment/codependency. Next time, set better boundaries. Take care. Right there^^^^^^^. You got burned but when you make threats then your asking for trouble. Forget bout getting answers, because they wont be good enough and just lead to more questions. Go lick your wounds and don't make the same mistake again. 1
thedudeyo Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Sounds corny but I'm gonna say it. This is a good learning experience for you. Take it for what it was all the good and bad. And no you shouldn't tell her anything leave things as is ecause it can only get worst from here if you choose to contact her. 1
dumbass2 Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Agree with what others have said. You left a threatening message. That officially ends any communication between you two. You continue to message her, not only does it push her further and further away (which really doesn't matter at this point), but it then gets into the area of harassment. Learn from this and move on. 1
preraph Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 People, never EVER give money to anyone you think you're in an LDR with. There are SO many people who are just online and on OLD just trying to make money, and that's all they want. Wise up. 1
Satu Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 You did this to yourself. Every decision you made was a bad one. Take care. 4
Friskyone4u Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 You really think she cares what you think she did or did not do??? You are young. Learn from your mistakes, and you made them. Make her a blur on your radar and do not waste your time messaging her anything. 1
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