Author Miss Peach Posted September 22, 2016 Author Posted September 22, 2016 I feel a bit sad because if he had made more of an effort to patch things up and seemed to get what bothered me or at least make more of an effort to ask questions and understand I would have given it another try. I miss him but then I keep thinking about his attempt to reach out to me was basically blaming me and playing victim. I know logically I made a good decision. Still it's not easy to end a LTR with someone you care about but know they aren't the best match for you. You did what felt right. Honestly, it doesn't sound like he put up a fight to keep the relationship alive, which speaks volumes. Claiming he doesn't remember past incidents also proves he is a liar or never took your pleas to heart, in one ear and out the other, so to speak. The fact that he never once asked about your feelings proves how self-centered he was. And his parting comment... gah! You deserve better! Even if he didn't remember, it bothered me enough I brought it up again weeks later and told him that even though I said pretty much everything I needed to in the moment I let him know I couldn't get it out of my head. It seems like that conversation should have been stored in the memory banks. I'm not sure if I'm right, but I feel he's doing it to test and reassure my feelings and when I stayed calm that evening it blew up more than it ever had before. I knew there was some insecurity but it surprised me how much he let it blow up. It was reminding me way too much of a ex who did that so I had to leave because the disrespect got to be too much. Aw. (Boob hugs.) Some ppl are such drama queens lol ....was there a windswept autumn cemetery in the background too when he said that? A distant string arrangement playing a c minor adagio on the wind? ) No string quartet but it was stormy, dark, and ships were passing in the night...
spiderowl Posted September 22, 2016 Posted September 22, 2016 You don't seem happy with the way he behaves and you both seem like you have very different personalities. Do you love him?
jen1447 Posted September 23, 2016 Posted September 23, 2016 I feel a bit sad because if he had made more of an effort to patch things up and seemed to get what bothered me or at least make more of an effort to ask questions and understand I would have given it another try. I miss him but then I keep thinking about his attempt to reach out to me was basically blaming me and playing victim. I know logically I made a good decision. Still it's not easy to end a LTR with someone you care about but know they aren't the best match for you. Nope, never easy, but you'll get thru it. The most important thing is the 'rightness' of your decision, and it's easy to see already you're good w that. Just a matter of separation anxiety at this point.
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