Do lying statistics make you uncomfortable dating?

[JustGettingBy]

Several studies have shown lying is more prominent than you likely think, with a commonly sighted statistic saying that when in conversation, a person will tell an average of 3 lies every 10 minutes.

 

If you do the math, this works out to being 18 lies in a one hour date, which is pretty short IMO. With almost everyone saying the lying is a massive red flag, or even a deal breaker, wouldn't this mean that nobody is honest enough for you? Or Am I missing something?

[basil67]

Several studies have shown lying is more prominent than you likely think, with a commonly sighted statistic saying that when in conversation, a person will tell an average of 3 lies every 10 minutes.

 

If you do the math, this works out to being 18 lies in a one hour date, which is pretty short IMO. With almost everyone saying the lying is a massive red flag, or even a deal breaker, wouldn't this mean that nobody is honest enough for you? Or Am I missing something?

 

3 lies in every 10 minutes? I don't believe the average person lies anywhere near this much. So no, such stats don't undermine my belief in people.

[jen1447]

Maybe fabrications, like "I broke 3 ribs falling down the stairs" when they actually broke one. I could see that.

[carhill]

Nah, if the flesh is soft and attractive, they can BS me all they want. People do that anyway so it's nothing new or exciting. I don't expect people to lie but am not surprised when they do. Part of life.

[Shanex]

One could draw the line between 'lying' and 'not saying everything'

 

There are some things about my life I'd rather keep for myself to a stranger or on a first date. Maybe that's 'lying'.. or not telling the whole truth.

 

Yes the estimate seems a bit much. I don't lie that much, only my real friends, family and some acquantainces know me very well.

[Shepp]

Doesn't bother me a jot - I'm a good liar, in the poker ring, or in an elaborate wind up, I'm a good liar - but I'm an honest man!

So just because people can lie it doesn't mean they are not telling you the truth!

 

My missus ALWAYS knows when I'm lying, and likewise, everyone says shes a great liar, which I think is hilarious because I think its written all over her face!

 

Surely dating is all about judging whether you trust someone, and if you trust them, they it doesn't matter how good of a liar they are!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

And for the record I think those stats seem exaggerated! I certainly haven't lied at all in the last hour, I've been talking to the missus about her new laptop, so for 18 times to be the average some people have to be lying like 40 times or so!

[Buddhist]

Doesn't bother me, I've learned in life to take anything someone says with a grain of salt. Their actions always tell the truth and it rarely takes long for it to become apparent. One of the biggest misery's in life is taking what people say at face value, you'll get upset every time.

[central]

Everybody lies - a lot. The research is - on average - correct. I've read about other studies with similar results.

 

What matters is the intent of the lie - and many lies aren't even conscious. Most lies are just embellishments, or downplay something to make the speaker look better in some minor way. They are more along the lines of social lubricants. The problematical lies are those used to deceive to gain unfair advantage, or manipulate someone into something they would avoid if they knew the full truth.

[Redhead14]

Any statement that is intended to manipulate or deceive in a way that could be harmful/hurtful to another person is unacceptable.

 

And, there are truths that are just as harmful/hurtful as a lie. I.E., "yes, that outfit makes you look fat"

[Toodaloo]

I haven't lied yet today... Apart from one very obvious one when I asked someone what they thought of my "duck face" and sent them a picture of a ducks face...

 

Pretty sure I have been awake longer than an hour...

[OneLov]

Would you believe me if I told you?

[NTV]

you don't need the honesty to play. you need it for the serious relationships. By the time you're done playing and it's time to get serious, you should both know each other well enough to know when bull**** is being played.