Debo Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 I have an old ex-girlfriend that lives in another state and lately been thinking about her. When we broke up, it was due to the fact she moved back home with her two kids to be closer to family. It's been five years since I have seen her(and nine since she left)and was wondering what the loveshack gurus think about me getting in touch with her? Should I just let it go or do you think it is worth trying? I know she got married and divorced, and possibly with someone now(she's not the type to be without a man for very long) but wondered how other women on here would think if an old ex called them out of the blue. Would you like it, or would it bring back too many memories that you would just as soon not relive? There's no chance of us getting together, but would be good to hear how she is doing.
Kat Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 I have always been tempted to contact ex's, but then I can always pre-empt the conversation and know that it won't do anyone any good. If you left on good terms then I say go for it
smile95 Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 if you do not have feelings anymore, I see nothing wrong with calling to catch up? Doyou still know she has the same #? I call my ex from college a lot actaully.
Author Debo Posted July 6, 2005 Author Posted July 6, 2005 The not having anymore feelings thing is what bothers me. I don't think I would, but not real sure. That is one of the things that makes me hesitant in calling. That, and the thought that she might not want to talk to me. lol I was just wondering how other women felt when an ex called them after not talking to them for a long time. And if it did more harm than good. I know that she has moved on and not sure how she would take the phone call. The few times we spoke after she moved were emotional and she told me then it was hard to talk to me. Of course, I took that excuse as being she didn't want to talk to me at all, therefore, making me hesitant to call now. Thanks for the responses.
smile95 Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 sounds like you ended on good terms, I did not. All it does for me is makes me say to myself"THIS IS SO WHY WE ARE NOT TOGETHER". We are friends, but it shows me that I made a good choice of leaving. If you think it will be a call that may hurt you, I would not. Or if you think you still have feelings I would not. But you never know???? Maybe you could form a great friendship?
Kat Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 Debo, my partner's ex's ring out of the blue every so often. As long as he hides nothing from me, then I have no problem with it. It is the whole "You won't know until you try" The worst that can happen is what? You get told that they don't want to talk to you and you are no further forward or back then you are now
Zaira Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 I'm in constant contact with my last two ex boyfriends. One was a four year live-in relationship and I think we are just getting over each other (I think the contact will eventually die out), the other was for a few months and he is married now with a child on the way., but we still share all our ups/downs like we used to. If there are no emotions getting in the way it's quite easy. As soon as you feel the flood of emotion come back though, it is time to ask yourself if you're in contact with each other for the right reasons.
lvgrl Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 you never know till you try. no point in not calling, nothing wrong with having friends
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