chargersfan Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 This gal I met m, have been talking to and been on a date with, still lives with her ex. She tells me it's because she wants to help her through a hard time and she prides herself on treating her girlfriends well. She told me that last week, she got home and her ex was acting a mess and she told her, "You need to take a vacation, just put it on my card." She tells me that she tells her exes, "just put it on my card" for things they need. Okay. That's cool. She's told me a few times, "Hey, I'm a catch, lady." Okay. On one occasion, she cut me off without speaking to me (because of something she misinterpreted) and told me to talk to other women in order to get "some context." I guess the implication being, she's a catch? We get along so well. 95% of the time, it's great, but that 5% of the time it's really difficult. Yesterday, she was driving up to her condo when she spotted her ex walking her dog. She and I were on the phone when she told me that her ex was waiving her over. Her ex is having a tough time with their break up. I could hear her roll down her window and begin to talk to her. I thought she was going to mute me or hang up with me and call me back, but I could hear her ex talking to her. This gal responds a few times and then says, "I'm on the phone" and repeats it a couple of times until I can hear her ex pause, taking a moment and says "uhh, okay. You are?" She rolls up her window, drives away and asks me if I heard anything. I was put off by this. It's a callous thing to do to her ex, who's having a tough time with their breakup. Also, it seemed a strange thing to do to allow me to hear. Or am analyzing this too much? If this was a guy, I'd probably say he's a douche and very insensitive. I have a blind spot for women and lack clarity. Would you be bothered by this? Thanks!
JewelD Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 Living with the ex would bother me. Giving the ex access to her bank account would bother me. All of this would bother me. She's no catch living with her ex and playing Daddy Warbucks to her. Let her 'catch' somebody else and move on.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 this gal i met m, have been talking to and been on a date with, still lives with her ex. She tells me it's because she wants to help her through a hard time and she prides herself on treating her girlfriends well. She told me that last week, she got home and her ex was acting a mess and she told her, "you need to take a vacation, just put it on my card." she tells me that she tells her exes, "just put it on my card" for things they need. Okay. That's cool. She's told me a few times, "hey, i'm a catch, lady." okay. On one occasion, she cut me off without speaking to me (because of something she misinterpreted) and told me to talk to other women in order to get "some context." i guess the implication being, she's a catch? We get along so well. 95% of the time, it's great, but that 5% of the time it's really difficult. Yesterday, she was driving up to her condo when she spotted her ex walking her dog. She and i were on the phone when she told me that her ex was waiving her over. Her ex is having a tough time with their break up. I could hear her roll down her window and begin to talk to her. I thought she was going to mute me or hang up with me and call me back, but i could hear her ex talking to her. This gal responds a few times and then says, "i'm on the phone" and repeats it a couple of times until i can hear her ex pause, taking a moment and says "uhh, okay. You are?" she rolls up her window, drives away and asks me if i heard anything. I was put off by this. It's a callous thing to do to her ex, who's having a tough time with their breakup. Also, it seemed a strange thing to do to allow me to hear. Or am analyzing this too much? If this was a guy, i'd probably say he's a douche and very insensitive. I have a blind spot for women and lack clarity. Would you be bothered by this? Thanks! There is no sane and sensible way i would be involved with such a person!
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