Blue31 Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 So I hope I get a lot of responses, especially from girls to tell me what exactly is going on here. Please don't merge with old thread cause it's too long and people don't read. Long story made short: A girl I really liked a decade ago in college but never dated cause of a number of things, primarily timing as she had a long term boyfriend and when she became available I was tied up with someone, and then she gets married. Looking back at it, whether right or wrong, I've always considered her the one that got away. After getting in her relationship with her husband we lost contact with each other. She works at one of the places I do business at and a few weeks ago she waited on me. I thought she probably was just being nice but she tried to initiate conversation with me about me, but I became flustered and didn't know what to say as I was in a hurry. I noticed she wasn't wearing a ring. I was curious and found out she's going through a divorce. The chances of running into her at her work are nill and I hate talking on the phone so I decided to reconnect texting. She seemed excited at first and gave hints that she was busy and struggling trying to raise a kid alone. I wasn't sure where she is at, so I took it slow sending a text here and there. Sometimes I'd get a response, other times not but if she didn't she always apologized. The other night after finally asking about the non ring, she opened up about her drug our nasty divorce. I felt so heartbroken for her as her friend, I just let loose letting her know my true feelings about missed chances with her before and also offering a lending ear if she needs to talk or vent. She didn't respond for a day... But then she responded and thanked me for being willing to listen to her and valued our previous friendship. She then proceeded to tell me she's seeing someone but she'd like to get together for lunch sometime. So now what should I do? What does all this mean, I'm so confused. Is she interested? Do I take the initiative to line up a meeting or do I give it some time. Do I just keep in contact with her and she is she makes an effort.
Gaeta Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 But then she responded and thanked me for being willing to listen to her and valued our previous friendship. She then proceeded to tell me she's seeing someone but she'd like to get together for lunch sometime. So now what should I do? What does all this mean, I'm so confused. Is she interested? Do I take the initiative to line up a meeting or do I give it some time. Do I just keep in contact with her and she is she makes an effort. hhmmm I think she is not interested in pursuing anything romantic. See, she got back to you and thanked you for offering your shoulder to cry on but did not address the comment about 'the one that got away' instead she chose to use the word friendship AND added she is seeing someone. That's a closed door right there. She picked those words very carefully to not give you any false idea. She taught long about what she would answer, that's why you waited an entire day to get an answer.
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