Jord11 Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 So we decided to have a few drinks and go to bingo later on so I went to the liquor store got a text that my mom wanted to join, so I asked my gf if it's ok and she got all pissed off and she said she was irritated and didn't want to go anymore because my mom would be involved, so I don't know what to do right now gf is barely talking to me at the moment and still angry that we couldn't go just us and my mom had to be included aswell, I feel bad because I do enjoy hanging out with family, what do I say now to my mom I'm not going anymore because my gf doesint want to go with my mom also so fustrating
ExpatInItaly Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 How often do you and your girlfriend spend quality time alone together? Is the family joining in a regular occurrence?
Author Jord11 Posted September 17, 2016 Author Posted September 17, 2016 We live together so we spend all the time together
JewelD Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 Need more context. Does she not like your mom? Was this a date night for the two of you? FWIW, my mom would never third wheel unless she was invited. and she'd probably still say no. Hanging out for family events is fine, but unless they have a close and comfortable relationship, I can see why she might not want your mom to tag along. Why did she get angry though? How often does your mother invite herself on your dates? Do you resist and argue with your gf so your mom can go? You can hang out with your family without your gf since she doesn't seem interested.
Shanex Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 OP just mentioned that they live together... and spend all their time together. So I won't be calling you 'mommy-boy' your mother can hang out with you guys, unless your girlfriend doesn't like her for a reason? Seems normal to me for a guy to hang out with his mother too considering he lives with his girlfriend and possibly can't see mom as much as he'd like? On the other hand, maybe your girlfriend consider she invite herself too often with you. How often if so? How old are you if it's any relevant?
preraph Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 You got yourself in this pickle by telling your other ahead of time what you and the girlfriend were going to go do. So in the future, don't tell her your plans and don't put them on social media until you're done. Not saying don't make time for her, but it wasn't you and her plans. It was you and your gf. If you hadn't told your mom you were going to bingo, this would never have come up. I don't know any women who actually want to hang out with their man's family. I don't know many who want to hang out with their own, even.
Gaeta Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 Your girlfriend is childish. She was probably not brought up in a close knitted family and does not understand your interaction with yours. Bingo is not a date night, it's loud and you'll be there with 500 other people, so what if your mom sits at your table...geezz!! Go to bingo with your mom and leave the kid (gf) at home. 1
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