fred123 Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 (edited) < moderator note: instead of merging this thread into an older one, here is a link to the backstory for context: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/561402-understanding-girl-updated-2016-07-27-a > not sure if I'm trying to vent or not. just hurting a lot. what do you do when you find out your ex gf is doing all the things she said she couldn't do while we dated with another guy. we dated for 4 months before we got into a relationship and during the those 4 months she never did anything with me cos she had her reasons ( her guard was up, or she panics, she hates doing couplet things) now i found out a guy she has been dating she asked me to do stuff within the first 2 months and invited him to a wedding and bought him gifts when she went on holiday and took him to the zoo. when we dated i wanted to take her to the zoo and stuff and she never wanted to go or gave me answers to plan things. she hated i planned things in advance yet she planned the zoo stuff 2 weeks in advance and plans dates with him in advance whereas when i tried to she would always say she will check her diary and let me know. then never let me know. we did end up being bf and gf and things changed and she put in more effort but I'm so hurt i feel like its all lies she told me when we were dating and i dont know her Edited September 16, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator added link for context ~6
Gaeta Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 Sounds like you were forcing this relationship with your ex. She was not a good match for you and you still hung on and put up with her negative. You need to find someone who wants to give her very best to you. As for your ex girlfriend just be glad she found someone that makes her want to be the best she can be. Envy and jealousy is ugly. Don't go there. You should not know so much about her and her new boyfriend. Delete her from your life and stop snooping. 2
Toodaloo Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 Fred this is a prime example of it being easy when it works and being hard when its not. She clearly wasn't sure with you and she is with other guy. Probably has sod all to do with you so just be glad you didn't waste your money. Go find someone who does enjoy doing these things with you. 1
Author fred123 Posted September 16, 2016 Author Posted September 16, 2016 yes thank you moderators. please read my back story. i am hurting . do i have a right to be? she told me she hated doing things and then took a guy to a wedding she only knows for 6 weeks! surely thats a coupley thing?? she told me last week that the reason she didnt see me more than once a week or go the the football with me or was being difficult with me was because i was too intense on the second date when we had a milkshake. She said if i wasn't she would have done all theses things and spent new years with me and would have been excited to go to the football with me when i had been given box seats VIP over xmas. I feel its not fair that she purposefully didnt make effort for those 4 months cos of me being intense in the second date. I said what did u mean by intense. she said that she has never been with a guy that intense asking dating questions and past reships exes and what she is looking for. i then said if i was intense why did you stick around for 6 months. she said she liked me thats why. I'm no angry at myself blaming myself for being intense otherwise she would have made more effort and invited me out to stuff.
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