ShyLove Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 Hello, A few times when setting up a date, a guy will ask "why not"? Or "oh another online date"? when I can't make a date that he first suggests. For example, last week a guy asked (while on the phone) "hey can we get together Thursday? Does that work for you?" (It was Tuesday) and I respinded "awww no I can't make Thursday, what other day are you free?" And he says to me , in almost an accusatory tone "why? What do you got going on Thursday?" I was taken back some but I was going to happy hour with co workers and told him so. We met up but didn't work out appearance and personality wasn't my type. Same thing happened this week when setting up a date for tonight. I told him I was not free on Saturday (the day he suggested) but was on Friday and he says "oh why another online date?" ️Lol ....I have a birthday dinner and told him. I mean, if someone told me they weren't free or couldn't do something on a certain day I don't think I'd pry further. I would wait for them to volunteer details, especially when we haven't even met. Is asking this question a red or yellow flag of any sort. I didn't think so but I'm curious of other opinions. These aren't the only 2 examples. How do I answer this question? I would never say to someone "none of your business" that's just not my style. And what if I actually did have another date. Do I say so? Thanks!
Gaeta Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 Hello, "awww no I can't make Thursday, what other day are you free?" And he says to me , in almost an accusatory tone "why? What do you got going on Thursday?" You hang up, as simple as that. This tone and question is totally unacceptable when setting up a first meeting. It screams controlling and jealous. I promise you if you hang up you won't be losing anything. "oh why another online date?" ️Lol ... I have had that said to me too. I replied: I will pretend I did not hear that question. Usually the man will realize his mistake and back track saying it was a bad joke. None of them turned out good catch. They're both red flags and don't hesitate to abort from there. Don't worry you won't run out of men to date if you dump them, you will just have better men to meet. 2
Author ShyLove Posted September 16, 2016 Author Posted September 16, 2016 You hang up, as simple as that. Haha that made literally laugh out loud. Ok, yeah I though it may be a sign as jealousy too. But then I though maybe they think I'm flaking bc a lot of ppl online do flake .....but then again, that's not my problem and one shouldn't assume. Thanks!!! 1
katiegrl Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 Haha that made literally laugh out loud. Ok, yeah I though it may be a sign as jealousy too. But then I though maybe they think I'm flaking bc a lot of ppl online do flake .....but then again, that's not my problem and one shouldn't assume. Thanks!!! LOL me too! I was gonna say the same thing or just next him immediately.... but Gaeta beat me to it! Some guys... I don't know where they get off....jesus! 1
Patrice Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 immediately, keep messaging you so you can't respond to anyone else? That screams control, jealous freak to me. Had one a while back, who I didn't respond to, because I was at work. He wrote back I guess you are not interested .. so I decided I am not. It seems like they want either you to focus just on THEM, or they turn out to be players.
Recommended Posts