Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 So there is a guy who rejected me twice. He use to complain about not being able to find a girlfriend to a single woman such as myself! So he asked me out by suggesting we "hang out more." To make a long story short, he did this twice once four years ago and again recently- making it seem by hanging out more he'd know if we were a suitable match. In which I declined, stating that if he know back then as much as he did not know now, and asking to " hang out" was his best answer then I would rather find someone who was really interested than luke warm and actually ask a woman out properly on a date rather than ask to hang out like some wimpish teenager. I was pretty sure then he got the message and left it as that But weirdly, this guy still texts. If I got a text like the text I sent him, I would take that as do not bother this woman again and leave it as that. He has texted me a few times, I've ignored most of them, until just recently he texted " hey how are you" in which I just said " fine how are you" he then said " I'm okay. I'm feeling a bit down." I know it sounds silly even asking, but should I continue to ignore him? After all, I don't want his emotional text messages. I feel like he cannot have his cake and eat it too, and by expressing " He is down" is just his way of saying "please give me some attention, as you use to give me plenty and now I sense that you're distancing yourself from me". Suggestions 1
Patrice Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 burned his bridges with someone else, and instead of making the changes he needs to make - keeps trying to go back to you. I wouldn't respond. 2
Bialy Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 Ignore his texts completely. All of them. He'll get the hint. Or, just block him.He sounds like an energy vampire. Energy vampires are emotionally immature individuals who have the sense that the whole world revolves around them. They use people as emotional dumping grounds and always seem dissatisfied or chronically unhappy. 4
Zahara Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 He's just looking for someone to pay him attention when things aren't going well for him. And seeing that you seem to at some point respond, he circles back to you because he can get something out of you -- any attention is attention. That's about it. 3
Toodaloo Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 by expressing " He is down" is just his way of saying "please give me some attention, as you use to give me plenty and now I sense that you're distancing yourself from me". Tell him that you are sorry he is down but as there is nothing you can do about it please leave you alone. Then ignore. They are like other peoples annoying children men like this... Keep ignoring and they go away eventually. Don't worry if you have to kick him a bit... 2
Gaeta Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 Block him. He is bored and looking for attention. If you knew how many men have text me after 1 full year of no contact JUST cause they were bored and had kept my number just for these boring moments. 4
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted September 16, 2016 Author Posted September 16, 2016 (edited) He's just looking for someone to pay him attention when things aren't going well for him. And seeing that you seem to at some point respond, he circles back to you because he can get something out of you -- any attention is attention. That's about it. I feel like writing a blog; these are the reasons as to limit your chances of ever getting laid...ever * using a woman as emotional dumping ground for when no one pays you attention... saying things like " I'm down." This guy use to tell me how hot I was, but STILL didn't want to date me properly. Now when I don't give him the attention he acts like a wimp again. Oh god, this s**t is nauseating. Gross:rolleyes: Edited September 16, 2016 by Daisy-oliviaWentcher 2
Zahara Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 I feel like writing a blog; these are the reasons as to limit your chances of ever getting laid...ever * using a woman as an emotional dumping grounds for when no one pays me attention... saying things like " I'm down." Gross:rolleyes: Yeah, I've had my fair share of these clowns. I think they have a list of women that they pull out and go through every time they need a pick me upper. Anything to get your attention. Telling you how hot you were was just a line to get you roped in. All very shallow. 4
Patrice Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 I went to his house a few weeks later to watch a movie, and he was texting another woman. I took it in, we weren't exclusive but seeing a lot of eachother. Then when we would see eachother, and not a word for days. Finally, I bought a new car last January and started talking to the saleswoman about dating and she mentioned she had dated someone the summer before - turned out to be him. That was it, I told him this wasn't working for me, and not to contact me again. He still texts, same type .. I just don't respond anymore. Lonely guy, socially inept, not over his past and too arrogant to work on his own issues. 2
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted September 16, 2016 Author Posted September 16, 2016 Block him. He is bored and looking for attention. If you knew how many men have text me after 1 full year of no contact JUST cause they were bored and had kept my number just for these boring moments. One full year? geez you'd think or hope they wouldn't be so stupid as to even DARE to contact you again. The audacity! Be for a real interesting conversation if these guys try and contact you now, since you have a partner. My friend just recently got an email from some old guy she use to be in love with. Through the tone of his email, he seemed to want to elicit some emotional affair with her again. Her husband was the first to receive the email, telling this bozo that her husband wasn't too happy receiving an email from a guy who did not treat his wife particularly well, I think was enough to send that guy well away, backed in his corner with his tail between his legs. 1
Dis Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 I dated a guy similar to this one around this time last year I stupidly took him seriously the first 2 dates...I was incredibly naive back then After I saw what a douche he was I kept him as a guy to go out and have drinks with and nothing more He always texts me, wanting attention...but for the most part he texts me because he really really wants to have sex with me and he cant have it...he wants what he cant have...he always say how hot I am how he'd make me feel so good..blah blah...yuk So I speak to him on my terms: -He is in no way a potential bf -I am not going to have sex with him or anything else -I'll hang out with him when I want some free and drinks and fun (He is fun I'll give him that much) However the last time I saw him I told him how I'm a witch (I was pretty tipsy) and I havent heard from him since. Hahaha So either hes in one of his mini soon to be failed relationships or hes scared he'll do something to piss me off...puleazeeee dude...I couldnt be bothered Ignore this guy and make room for someone in your life who cares about you and doesnt put you on the back burner 1
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted September 16, 2016 Author Posted September 16, 2016 I dated a guy similar to this one around this time last year I stupidly took him seriously the first 2 dates...I was incredibly naive back then After I saw what a douche he was I kept him as a guy to go out and have drinks with and nothing more He always texts me, wanting attention...but for the most part he texts me because he really really wants to have sex with me and he cant have it...he wants what he cant have...he always say how hot I am how he'd make me feel so good..blah blah...yuk So I speak to him on my terms: -He is in no way a potential bf -I am not going to have sex with him or anything else -I'll hang out with him when I want some free and drinks and fun (He is fun I'll give him that much) However the last time I saw him I told him how I'm a witch (I was pretty tipsy) and I havent heard from him since. Hahaha So either hes in one of his mini soon to be failed relationships or hes scared he'll do something to piss me off...puleazeeee dude...I couldnt be bothered Ignore this guy and make room for someone in your life who cares about you and doesnt put you on the back burner Thank you. This was exactly the words I needed to hear. 2
Dis Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 Thank you. This was exactly the words I needed to hear. I'm happy I could help girly
No_Go Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 You nailed it yourself: by expressing " He is down" is just his way of saying "please give me some attention, as you use to give me plenty He's just bored and looking for a company or if lucky - sex. The fact that you're responding to his message (btw what the context of the response is absolutely irrelevant) shows him that your boundaries are weak and he'll continue trying to contact you until a) you stop responding, b) he find someone he fancies more to chat with, or c) he finds something more entertaining to do in his free time. Sorry but I don't see his behavior showing remote interest in you. So there is a guy who rejected me twice. He use to complain about not being able to find a girlfriend to a single woman such as myself! So he asked me out by suggesting we "hang out more." To make a long story short, he did this twice once four years ago and again recently- making it seem by hanging out more he'd know if we were a suitable match. In which I declined, stating that if he know back then as much as he did not know now, and asking to " hang out" was his best answer then I would rather find someone who was really interested than luke warm and actually ask a woman out properly on a date rather than ask to hang out like some wimpish teenager. I was pretty sure then he got the message and left it as that But weirdly, this guy still texts. If I got a text like the text I sent him, I would take that as do not bother this woman again and leave it as that. He has texted me a few times, I've ignored most of them, until just recently he texted " hey how are you" in which I just said " fine how are you" he then said " I'm okay. I'm feeling a bit down." I know it sounds silly even asking, but should I continue to ignore him? After all, I don't want his emotional text messages. I feel like he cannot have his cake and eat it too, and by expressing " He is down" is just his way of saying "please give me some attention, as you use to give me plenty and now I sense that you're distancing yourself from me". Suggestions
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted September 17, 2016 Author Posted September 17, 2016 You nailed it yourself: by expressing " He is down" is just his way of saying "please give me some attention, as you use to give me plenty He's just bored and looking for a company or if lucky - sex. The fact that you're responding to his message (btw what the context of the response is absolutely irrelevant) shows him that your boundaries are weak and he'll continue trying to contact you until a) you stop responding, b) he find someone he fancies more to chat with, or c) he finds something more entertaining to do in his free time. Sorry but I don't see his behavior showing remote interest in you. I haven't lost anything at all! I don't care if he hasn't got any interest in me. It makes my skin crawl the fact that he is even attempting to contact me. I don't think I'll give in. I have nothing to gain from it. I hate men like this. He's a fair-weather friend and a user. And God, as I said before, my text previously of " I deserve better' is enough I would have assumed for ANY MAN, to step well away as I have stated that I can do better and probably will. 1
No_Go Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 Ok, just stop responding to him (block him so his texts does not distract you) and you're all set:) I haven't lost anything at all! I don't care if he hasn't got any interest in me. It makes my skin crawl the fact that he is even attempting to contact me. I don't think I'll give in. I have nothing to gain from it. I hate men like this. He's a fair-weather friend and a user. And God, as I said before, my text previously of " I deserve better' is enough I would have assumed for ANY MAN, to step well away as I have stated that I can do better and probably will.
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