DeadInside72 Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 Hi reader, i just wanted to know whether you could help me in a few things , my girlfriend broke up with me a month and a half away from now , and even after this time i still love her and would give anything in my life just to get her to talk to me again. in case you need context here is the story. Im only 17 about to be 18 , i liked this girl for over a year before i had the courage to ask her out and i finally made her my girlfriend after a few months , at the start everything was ok , she was the best person i had ever had , she would be there for me every time i needed (and im a deppresive person, not stated by doctors but probably cause ive never had it checked)and no after some time i started going through a rough patch in my life , where i literraly started thinking i had no one in my life , and actually that was pretty much the case , but when this started happening i started acting suicidal , and actually tried to kill myself several times, when my suicidal and stupid kid like behavior started she was fine helping me , but after the fourth or fifht time i did it everything started going to hell , we would start to fight about anything and it would always end up on my fault(and no i dont mean this in any sarcastic or trying to feel bad myself way i mean it)after like a year of relationship , she finally left me , i waited for about a month and a half and tried to check in on her to see how she was doing , but she didnt say a thing other than and i quote "i dont really want to talk to you anymore , so ill just block you" and so she did , the thing is no matter what happens and how many people i talk to , i still love her and want her back , and i would like to know if trying to communicate with her through facebook or looking for her in real life to talk to her and say how sorry i am for all the pain and all the things i've caused her would actually help either making her be a part of my life either as a friend or if you think i could still get her back. Thank You in advance to whoever decides to help me.
smudge21 Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 You need to start dealing with your own inner demons here, before you can bring another into your life and expect them to be there for you. She won't come back with you begging and pleading, but that's just the usual story following a break up. As much as you still love her, you have to accept her decision and let it go. All the while you're focused on her, you're not focused on yourself, and that's more important for your future. You're still so very young and the last thing you want is to still be fighting these battles in your thirties or forties, pushing people away and hurting others. Go see a doctor and get some professional advice. As for the ex, no one can say what will happen there - most of the time we all eventually just move on and find love elsewhere. I know that's hard to hear, but not everyone who comes into our lives is destined to remain there. 1
Author DeadInside72 Posted September 16, 2016 Author Posted September 16, 2016 I thank you for tour answer , and i would like to add another question , shoulf i feel guilty? I made her go through so much stuff , i caused her entire collapses thanks to my stupid thoughts , and about those , since i lost her and realised that was the cause , i have been treating the problems how it should , but even now that ive repaired a part of me , another one is dying... ,my question just really is , should i feel guilty , and try to apologize at some point?
GorillaTheater Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 I thank you for tour answer , and i would like to add another question , shoulf i feel guilty? I made her go through so much stuff , i caused her entire collapses thanks to my stupid thoughts , and about those , since i lost her and realised that was the cause , i have been treating the problems how it should , but even now that ive repaired a part of me , another one is dying... ,my question just really is , should i feel guilty , and try to apologize at some point? Guilt is useful, but only insofar as it prompts you to improve and to do better the next time. So sure, feel guilty, but don't stop with that. Understand where you f*cked up and don't do it again. 1
preraph Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 Look, you're on an evil merry-go-round and you need to get off by going to see a psychiatrist or psychologist, no matter what it takes. Make your parents send you. Don't know where you live, but in the US, and you being still 17, you should be able to find help. But do it NOW because at 18 you are not eligible for child healthcare most likely. If you can't talk to your parents, then call the local Mental Health organization and get referrals. If you aren't in the US, then go to the emergency room of a hospital and tell them you suffer from extreme suicidal depression. But you need to deal with your mental health. Depression can often be very well treated and it will give you joy in life. 1
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