Blanco Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 Don't do it. I've had an ex do this and it felt unnecessary and almost patronizing. 3
preraph Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 I have a better idea. IF you hear from him, wish him happy birthday just in words. If you don't hear from him, he's not thinking about you, so there's no point. Remember these holidays go both ways. They will make people sentimental sometimes, if there's any sentiment left, but it doesn't always have to be YOU that does it. Maybe I'm wrong, but your Loveshack ID, "Lovesfool" kind of does make it seem like you're carrying a torch for him. If you weren't, I doubt this would be a major decision one way or the other. And also remember that if you don't say happy birthday or send a card, if he notices that and cares, it might prompt him to check in with you, at which time you can say, Oh, yeah! Happy belated birthday!
mg4514 Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 As someone who has been in your ex b/f's shoes: LEAVE HIM ALONE. Naturally, you're going to do what you want because you're making this about you. It's his birthday. YOU chose to no longer be a part of his life when you broke it off and "moved on" - now stick to your guns. 1
Redhead14 Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 Sorry, that may have come across in the wrong way. I still care for him as I care for anyone close to me in my life, like friends and family, not romantically. I care for anyone close to me in my life, like friends and family, not romantically -- You two are not close like anything. You aren't friends or part of each others lives in anyway anymore and that's the way it should be. I'd be concerned that if he did respond, it might be potentially filled with acrimony . . . like "leave me the hell alone". You'd be taking the chance that your wounds and his wounds would be re-opened. That's the point of no contact anyway. Protecting the parties from re-exposure to emotions. You've come here for advice but you thought you'd get more support for what you want to do. You got advice from a lot of people here who all told you the same thing and you don't like it. That is akin to going to 10 doctors until you get the diagnosis you want instead of the correct one . . . 1
ChickiePops Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 Nooooooooooooooo don't do it!! If he has any feelings for you whatsoever left then you will ruin his birthday. Leave him alone. 1
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