PeterJan Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 I had a huge crush on a girl in my class. We texted a lot, like 6 hour conversations. We have a lot in commen and I thought it was the start of something great.... I asked het out( I never did this in my Life) and she said yes. But she didn't have time this week, so I told her she could text me when she had time. This was about a month ago.... When I see her in real life she doesn't even look at me or just avoids me, and she doesn't respond to my messages like it used to be. I think I might f*ed up. How can I get her to like me again? Or should I leave it( I don't want that, because we have a lot in commen)? I am lost, please Help me!
Lagata Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 It's always hard when the people you like don't reciprocate. To me, it sounds like she simply wasn't interested. Maybe she was flattered that you liked her, however she isn't making any plans for you and doesn't seem to want to. The long conversations are nice. Although I don't know what you texted about, She may have been interested or she may have been bored and just wanted to chat. It's hard to say. The thing that makes me most nervous about this situation, is that she is avoiding you in person. If she wanted to make an effort she would approach you instead of avoid you, and she would apologize for not making more of an effort, and she would go out of her way to make a date or explain to you why she wasn't able to make plans and attempt to work it out. Crushes can be very hard, but unless you've done something to break her trust or hurt her, you can't blame yourself for this! You did nothing wrong. It might hurt because the wound is fresh, but I would say if she is clearly avoiding your presence, to just avoid hers. It is very easy to become upset, angered or irrational when you don't understand the situation fully, trust me, I know. Just try not to pester her- use this as a test. If she wants to try out a date, she'll initiate and come around. Otherwise, she was either playing with you or she chickened out and it's her loss. It's still a little soon to tell I guess, but her frosty behaviour and avoidance are red flags to me. Don't blame yourself. DON'T. Give it some time, and if she doesn't come around she wasn't worth your time
Author PeterJan Posted September 15, 2016 Author Posted September 15, 2016 It's always hard when the people you like don't reciprocate. To me, it sounds like she simply wasn't interested. Maybe she was flattered that you liked her, however she isn't making any plans for you and doesn't seem to want to. The long conversations are nice. Although I don't know what you texted about, She may have been interested or she may have been bored and just wanted to chat. It's hard to say. The thing that makes me most nervous about this situation, is that she is avoiding you in person. If she wanted to make an effort she would approach you instead of avoid you, and she would apologize for not making more of an effort, and she would go out of her way to make a date or explain to you why she wasn't able to make plans and attempt to work it out. Crushes can be very hard, but unless you've done something to break her trust or hurt her, you can't blame yourself for this! You did nothing wrong. It might hurt because the wound is fresh, but I would say if she is clearly avoiding your presence, to just avoid hers. It is very easy to become upset, angered or irrational when you don't understand the situation fully, trust me, I know. Just try not to pester her- use this as a test. If she wants to try out a date, she'll initiate and come around. Otherwise, she was either playing with you or she chickened out and it's her loss. It's still a little soon to tell I guess, but her frosty behaviour and avoidance are red flags to me. Don't blame yourself. DON'T. Give it some time, and if she doesn't come around she wasn't worth your time Should I just ignore her back?
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