How much communication is enough vs too much?

[JennK]

I just wanted to get the general consensus of what people think about having communication during the day with their SO. What is too much or not enough?

[DrReplyInRhymes]

I just wanted to get the general consensus of what people think about having communication during the day with their SO. What is too much or not enough?

 

Personally, I feel that you can, and should, communicate as much as you'd like,

For some that may be once a day, for others, all day jokes and stories suffice.

I like to communicate a lot, I like to have that connection with my significant other,

For if I don't, another guy will, and soon she'll be laughing all day with another =(

[JennK]

I worry about that too sometimes but yet I don't want to sound whiny and ask why he doesn't talk to me as much during the day anymore. Then he'll feel like he's not doing enough.

[Lagata]

In my own personal experience, communication shouldn't always be gauged on how often someone chooses to communicate, because it can often vary due to life, circumstances, moods, or even just needing some alone time.

 

I do however feel that it is important to have equal sided communication. A committed relationship that is one-sided can lead to trouble. If a day or two passes and you still feel confident and comfortable with the situation, then I would say have no worries. However, if multiple days, or a week or more passes and they haven't reached out to you in any form, or if you haven't reached out to them(and even more importantly if this is a regular occurrence), then there is an obvious rift in communication and that can lead to problems down the line, and makes me question if they have the time to commit to a relationship with you and/or vice versa.

 

Otherwise though, it all really depends on the person. Some are shy and introverted and do not talk much. Other people let their actions and presence do the talking, and others do nothing but talk and reach out for a chance to communicate. Learn how your SO operates and try to respect that. If he(or she) is a brick wall most of the time and this makes you uncomfortable, try explaining that to him(or her) and make compromise based on both of your needs and wants. As long as you are comfortable and do communicate openly; the numbers and math don't matter as much and are generally different from relationship to relationship.