whichwayisup Posted July 20, 2005 Posted July 20, 2005 I can't get over him. I have called him using work as an excuse just to hear his voice. He keeps telling me to stop calling and to leave him alone. I am so lost and I didn't think I would be. If you don't leave him alone he will charge you with sexual harrassment. You did cross the line by going to his house. He's asked you to leave him alone and you haven't. The work situation is different. YOU have to decide what you want to do. Stay or go look for another job. Can you actually continue working there, seeing him all the time? Can you control your feelings and not react when you see him? It will cause problems but you could talk to management....But, I see down below you're seeing another guy from work...Not a good idea, 1) it's WORK 2) Rumour mill, I'm sure many know what has been happening, people love gossip and aren't stupid, especially if you're emotional at work. 3) REBOUND guy! 4) He is a co-worker. Don't date him during this rollercoaster you're on right now!! You're not over other MM yet, so why go with this guy? More trouble than it's worth... Originally posted by I was the OW I was just hoping that maybe we could spend some time alone, outside of work, he would realize what he is missing out on. I'm a fun, outgoing, positive person and mm told me he loved that about me. He said his W was always withdrawn, unhappy, and always negative about things but yet, he could of been lying. He said he loved my passion for life and how happy I was and I was so much fun to be around because of it. We had so much fun together, I didn't think it would end so soon. I know I need to stop calling him, but it's so hard, I am in love with him. I thought he was in love with me too. He always told me he loved me, would email me love letters at work saying how much he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and then WHAM! He broke it off. How can you tell someone so many wonderful things and not mean it? If he did mean it, how could he break off what we had? I know I need to get over him, I know I need to stop contacting him. It is so hard to see him at work every day and not want to go over to him and flirt with him like I want to. I miss it. I need to face reality here and realize that it's over. Yes you do. He said it is over. You now need to seek some sort of therapy so you can handle this and get through it. Will it be hard? Yes! But you can do it and you will do it as you have no choice anymore. The MM is not going to tell you what you want to hear, give you closure so you have to do it for yourself. Tell yourself it doesn't matter what he thinks/feels. You both meant something to eachother at one time, but not anymore...Just like past relationships, they end and people move on. Hang in there. Hate to say this, but really try to keep a low profile at work. The less personal you are, the better. Keep busy, and I mean BUSY at work to get your mind off of things. If you don't, you will only make it harder on you. He's moved on, has his wife and I'm sure he WILL file charges if you don't leave him alone. Keep on the straight and narrow. Read no foolin's thread in the coping section. About no contact etc., and many others have posted on that thread.
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