knight192 Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 Hi, I met this girl about a month ago via tinder. We had a first date and everything has gone really quick on the second date as we finished the night to hers. After the first date I told her I wanted to stop now as I didn't know what I wanted and it wouldn't be good for her. Finally 2 weeks late I got back to her, however I mentioned that I wasn't looking for something serious. Since we 3 more times including one time where I met few of her friends. At the meantime I kept talking to this other girl on tinder and we should have met last weekend but she had to reschedule so it's now planned that we should meet this weekend. Do you think I should see this other girl or not?
smackie9 Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 Hah what do you think? Should you? You are "dating" you can go out with anyone you want. 1
Bialy Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 You're not in a committed relationship with anyone. You can see whomever you like.
alwaysgrow Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 You mentioned that you weren't ready for something serious. If this is still true after having several dates with her, I don't think it's an issue to date someone else. I would advise you to make it clear to all involved that you are dating others and are not exclusive with anyone right now. Take care to guard your heart and to be sensitive to the girls emotions.
Author knight192 Posted September 16, 2016 Author Posted September 16, 2016 How do you choose your words to make it sounds good to say this to a woman? Also I am not quite sure to get what people mean by you're just dating, you're not committed in a relationship so you can date other woman. So dating is not cheating? And how do you take the time to know someone if you just keep going and see somewhere else?
elaine567 Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 Sounds like despite saying you do not want a relationship, by seeing her, sleeping with her and now meeting her friends you are acting like you are in a "relationship", so I would guess that is what she is assuming. However you have arranged to meet up with another girl this weekend, so it now gets awkward. How do you feel about each girl? If you are actually developing something with girl one then you should not be also spending the weekend with girl two IMO.
Author knight192 Posted September 16, 2016 Author Posted September 16, 2016 Well I'm starting to know girl one a bit more and I do like her so far when I have never seen girl two but she seemed nice as well (from our conversations online). Do you think I should cancel girl two then? And don't mess around?
Redhead14 Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 Hi, I met this girl about a month ago via tinder. We had a first date and everything has gone really quick on the second date as we finished the night to hers. After the first date I told her I wanted to stop now as I didn't know what I wanted and it wouldn't be good for her. Finally 2 weeks late I got back to her, however I mentioned that I wasn't looking for something serious. Since we 3 more times including one time where I met few of her friends. At the meantime I kept talking to this other girl on tinder and we should have met last weekend but she had to reschedule so it's now planned that we should meet this weekend. Do you think I should see this other girl or not? Listen, if you are not looking for anything serious, be upfront with both girls and tell them you are multi-dating and let them decide if they want to keep seeing you. You can date women casually as long as you are honest with them and they are all good with that. If one or both of them have dating goals which include long-term commitment, you shouldn't date them. If a girl is hoping for a long-term relationship for herself and she's dating a guy who has no intention of having that for himself, she ends up being strung along. And, in the very beginning, even if a person is hoping for a long-term thing, they won't know whether it's going to be with that particular dating partner at the time, so it's just about being on the same page in terms of overall dating goals to start with. If you aren't on the same page in terms of overall goals, it's not a good idea to date that person. 1
alwaysgrow Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 How do you choose your words to make it sounds good to say this to a woman? Also I am not quite sure to get what people mean by you're just dating, you're not committed in a relationship so you can date other woman. So dating is not cheating? And how do you take the time to know someone if you just keep going and see somewhere else? I would preface it with saying that you care about her and her feelings and want to be totally upfront about what you're wanting right now - if you're not looking for a serious relationship, you don't want to lead her on and then cause her pain later. I think being in a relationship is different from dating. You might go on a date with someone, but that doesn't mean you are in a relationship with them. After a few dates, you might decide that this is a person that you would really like to develop a relationship with and proceed from there. Just be respectful of her feelings and remain open and honest. 1
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