4MENOT4HER Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 Ok will try an keep this brief. I am not one to air my personal life out there but I need to vent somewhere. I hope this is the right place. We have been married for about 15 years and together for about 5 before that. We met in early 20's from a large group of friends. I knew she had 1 time been with a good friend but it was just early 20's make out and light petting. One time I had suspicions she was with another one of my friends and told her and always told her to enjoy herself but NEVER with one of my friends. She cried for forgiveness and explained they only made out. There was always an odd feeling of jokes and a story of what my friend with someone but I never related it to her. After marriage she had a boss that was appeared to be hitting on her and I always joked about it with her. Once in a while I would ask for reassurance but again never had any doubts. Well we were doing some role playing and she slipped about a story and it hit a memory. The memory was what my friend had told about the so called other girl. To make it brief he is very well hung and lets just say there was more then just kissing. Th hung part come sin because there was a fitment issue. After confronting her she denied it screaming and yelling but then days later said yes they were together but she doesn't remember anything of what they did. She then explained that her boss and her have been emailing and talking for like 5 years. She then explain that he talked dirty to her and even masturbated on the phone. She of course said she hung up overtime he started talking like that but of course they continued to talk afterwards. Ok I am very secure person and in all honestly don't think they had intercourse or ? But I do thin something happened. The problem is for about 3 months now of screaming an yelling she denies everything but of course slips up and more info comes out. I told her that the act isn't the problem it is all the lying and not coming clean. She says she does not remember ANY of her past. Of course she slips up and remembers very specific parts of these meetings but nothing that would make her wrong. I just can't take the lies and the saying sorry but not giving any reason that she should be sorry. How can you be sorry if you can't remember what you did? She has got me so crazy that I have to ask do you think she forgot all of this?? How can you forget if one would have been your first time doing certain sexual acts? How can you forget being with someone hung like a horse? I just want to know what happened to move on. I can't be in a room where everyone knows about what happened except me. It is just not fair. The boss deal is worse as now I feel the need to have a talk with him as he knew she was married. I am nervous to call as I think after I threaten him he is going to make me look stupid after he tells me what happened. Why can't she just come clean?????
Marc878 Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 All cheaters lie, hide and deny a lot as you've found. If they dont tell it never happened. 1
HumanMachine Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 Her and her boss have been banging. 1
DrReplyInRhymes Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 Ok will try an keep this brief. I am not one to air my personal life out there but I need to vent somewhere. I hope this is the right place. We have been married for about 15 years and together for about 5 before that. We met in early 20's from a large group of friends. I knew she had 1 time been with a good friend but it was just early 20's make out and light petting. One time I had suspicions she was with another one of my friends and told her and always told her to enjoy herself but NEVER with one of my friends. She cried for forgiveness and explained they only made out. There was always an odd feeling of jokes and a story of what my friend with someone but I never related it to her. After marriage she had a boss that was appeared to be hitting on her and I always joked about it with her. Once in a while I would ask for reassurance but again never had any doubts. Well we were doing some role playing and she slipped about a story and it hit a memory. The memory was what my friend had told about the so called other girl. To make it brief he is very well hung and lets just say there was more then just kissing. Th hung part come sin because there was a fitment issue. After confronting her she denied it screaming and yelling but then days later said yes they were together but she doesn't remember anything of what they did. She then explained that her boss and her have been emailing and talking for like 5 years. She then explain that he talked dirty to her and even masturbated on the phone. She of course said she hung up overtime he started talking like that but of course they continued to talk afterwards. Ok I am very secure person and in all honestly don't think they had intercourse or ? But I do thin something happened. The problem is for about 3 months now of screaming an yelling she denies everything but of course slips up and more info comes out. I told her that the act isn't the problem it is all the lying and not coming clean. She says she does not remember ANY of her past. Of course she slips up and remembers very specific parts of these meetings but nothing that would make her wrong. I just can't take the lies and the saying sorry but not giving any reason that she should be sorry. How can you be sorry if you can't remember what you did? She has got me so crazy that I have to ask do you think she forgot all of this?? How can you forget if one would have been your first time doing certain sexual acts? How can you forget being with someone hung like a horse? I just want to know what happened to move on. I can't be in a room where everyone knows about what happened except me. It is just not fair. The boss deal is worse as now I feel the need to have a talk with him as he knew she was married. I am nervous to call as I think after I threaten him he is going to make me look stupid after he tells me what happened. Why can't she just come clean????? She did come clean, she's a liar and a cheat and didn't respect you for more than 15 years, It's happened your entire marriage, sorry man, she's fake and so are her tears.
Author 4MENOT4HER Posted September 14, 2016 Author Posted September 14, 2016 I agree with the "If she doesn't say it it didn't happen", as that is my argument with her. She will say her boss called her or he masturbated but when I question what she did it is always nothing or can't remember. I don't think they actually had sex but there could have been some kiss or feeling. With my friend she again remembers everything that relates to her orig story of just making out but then claims to forget the rest. Then she slips and says she remembers his big bulge or where she was at the time. There are kids involved and we have a great relationship otherwise so it isn't as easy as kick the cheating whore to the curb. Especially without facts. I have threatened to call my friend or her boss. Problem is if I make a threat it is happening. I am not exactly the person you want showing up threatening you and she is well aware of that. This is where I can't believe her boss had the balls.
HumanMachine Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 I agree with the "If she doesn't say it it didn't happen", as that is my argument with her. She will say her boss called her or he masturbated but when I question what she did it is always nothing or can't remember. I don't think they actually had sex but there could have been some kiss or feeling. With my friend she again remembers everything that relates to her orig story of just making out but then claims to forget the rest. Then she slips and says she remembers his big bulge or where she was at the time. There are kids involved and we have a great relationship otherwise so it isn't as easy as kick the cheating whore to the curb. Especially without facts. I have threatened to call my friend or her boss. Problem is if I make a threat it is happening. I am not exactly the person you want showing up threatening you and she is well aware of that. This is where I can't believe her boss had the balls. Your partner is the ONLY person to blame if she has cheated.. It's her responsibility to reject advances 1
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