Ryu500 Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 Hi I met a woman online. We messaged allot in the first few days, then I got her number and we went on 2 dates, with some texting and a phone call in between. I feel very lukewarm about her and the dates we went on. I think the dates were OK. Not bad, but it's not like the sparks were flying. The dates almost felt too friendly, and nothing physical has happened between us. Which is all fine by me. However, I don't know if I should pursue this further. On one hand I feel like I should get to know her more, but on the other hand I don't want to pursue it further, get in deeper, only to have my lukewarm feelings just stay the same. After 2 dates my interest level is not too high. I don't want to give up so soon. But am I really giving up too soon? Maybe two dates is enough to feel like this won't be a love connection? She's thanked me for both dates and told me she had a nice time. She is a nice woman and there is nothing "wrong" with her, which also adds to my doubts. However, chemistry is chemistry and I am not sure if there is a love connection.
smackie9 Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 That is why we go out on a few dates....to see if we REALLY like them and see relationship potential. No chemistry, move on. Nice doesn't cut it. 1
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Gaeta Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 She's thanked me for both dates and told me she had a nice time. She is a nice woman and there is nothing "wrong" with her, which also adds to my doubts. However, chemistry is chemistry and I am not sure if there is a love connection. If nothing is wrong with her, if she is well put together and attractive to you, then what do you have to lose? About kissing her and see if your interest gets renewed? I felt so so about my boyfriend when I met him, I gave him 3-4 dates. Each date I liked him more and more and when we kissed I finally felt some chemistry. We've been dating 10 months and I am head over heels for him.
Author Ryu500 Posted September 15, 2016 Author Posted September 15, 2016 Honestly, on the 2nd date I did go in for a kiss at the end. Just to see what happens. I don't know if she misread me, but she sort of turned her head and kissed me on the cheek. At this point I thought she wasn't interested and I made a decision to contact her only if she contacted me first. Low and behold she text me the next day telling me how much fun she had and thanked me. Overall I find her ok. Personality, physical attraction, and chemistry. I'm just in an unsure state and I wouldn't want to prolong the inevitable. I'll see. Being that we only went on 2 cordial dates I think that if I do decide to not see her again it would be enough to just not call her for another date and leave it a that. As my friend said, " you don't have to send her a rejection letter." I've had women not call be back after a date or 2, so I guess it's fine.
Author Ryu500 Posted September 15, 2016 Author Posted September 15, 2016 So she text me today. I decided to see her again. I'm OK with that, just as long as we are just getting to know each other and are not exclusive. I want to see who else it out there in the world. I'm not ready to just exclusively date a woman unless I really know she's the only woman I want to date. But I realized that it's worth it to go out again and get to know her more. She certainly has qualities I like in a woman. But as we all know, we need more than that. So a 3rd date can't hurt. So we'll see.
Gaeta Posted September 16, 2016 Posted September 16, 2016 So she text me today. I decided to see her again. I'm OK with that, just as long as we are just getting to know each other and are not exclusive. I want to see who else it out there in the world. I'm not ready to just exclusively date a woman unless I really know she's the only woman I want to date. But I realized that it's worth it to go out again and get to know her more. She certainly has qualities I like in a woman. But as we all know, we need more than that. So a 3rd date can't hurt. So we'll see. I am glad to read that. Please update us I am very much interested in hearing about it.
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