Girl driving me nuts!!!

[Portugal511]

So I met a girl and we hit it off, went on 2 dates, both lasted over 3 hours (the last few girls none lasted over an hour!) didn’t hook up or anything, but we made out after the 2nd date We’re about to go on our third date, when she sent me this text “So here’s my thins right now. I love hanging out with you and I think you are a great guy but right now I’m just not getting that spark or chemistry. I don’t want to lead you on or waste your time at all but I feel terrible. I would love to keep in touch and stay friends because maybe something could come from this but right now I just want to be honest I also might just need time time to clear my head to and get in a better place, I do really enjoy spending time with you right now it’s just on a friend level and I’m sorry and it sucks” I don’t believe in the whole friend zone nonsense, I’m not an entitled ******* like that. In my opinion, she probably found another dude who was better matched for her, whatever. I was ok with it, we agreed to hang out and get a drink a couple days later. That day I texted to confirm, she said she would text me after work, to hang out, she never did. I didn’t text her either. She is a big Dallas Cowboys fan, and a couple days later she randomly texts me about some Cowboys nonsense, I went with it for a while but eventually I stopped responding. 2 days later, I posted a new profile pic on Facebook, from one of my friends albums, she liked the album and my profile pic. ( she had never before in the month+ of talking liked any of my Facebook things. A few days later it’s Saturday, and she texts me “If you and your friends are bar hopping tonight stop by the bill. My friends are throwing a birthday party for me. Most of them are single haha” which I replied “hey thanks for the invite but I’ve got plans already. Another time for sure!” no response from her. 2 days later (yesterday) I sent her a “Happy birthday (girls name)!!! I hope you have a fantastic day! ” to which I get the mind blowing text back of " thank you!!! " normally I wouldn't notice, but she never sent emojis at all to me and all of a sudden I get the growing heart emoji... If it had been the purple or green heart, I wouldn't even think about it, but that one got to me. My question to you guys is"what the **** is this girls deal? And what the **** do I do? I like her, but I'm not sure what her deal is??? She has also randomly snap chatted me a few times, the past week, and she never did that during the 1st 2 dates timeframe

[Redhead14]

So I met a girl and we hit it off, went on 2 dates, both lasted over 3 hours (the last few girls none lasted over an hour!) didn’t hook up or anything, but we made out after the 2nd date We’re about to go on our third date, when she sent me this text “So here’s my thins right now. I love hanging out with you and I think you are a great guy but right now I’m just not getting that spark or chemistry. I don’t want to lead you on or waste your time at all but I feel terrible. I would love to keep in touch and stay friends because maybe something could come from this but right now I just want to be honest I also might just need time time to clear my head to and get in a better place, I do really enjoy spending time with you right now it’s just on a friend level and I’m sorry and it sucks” I don’t believe in the whole friend zone nonsense, I’m not an entitled ******* like that. In my opinion, she probably found another dude who was better matched for her, whatever. I was ok with it, we agreed to hang out and get a drink a couple days later. That day I texted to confirm, she said she would text me after work, to hang out, she never did. I didn’t text her either. She is a big Dallas Cowboys fan, and a couple days later she randomly texts me about some Cowboys nonsense, I went with it for a while but eventually I stopped responding. 2 days later, I posted a new profile pic on Facebook, from one of my friends albums, she liked the album and my profile pic. ( she had never before in the month+ of talking liked any of my Facebook things. A few days later it’s Saturday, and she texts me “If you and your friends are bar hopping tonight stop by the bill. My friends are throwing a birthday party for me. Most of them are single haha” which I replied “hey thanks for the invite but I’ve got plans already. Another time for sure!” no response from her. 2 days later (yesterday) I sent her a “Happy birthday (girls name)!!! I hope you have a fantastic day! ” to which I get the mind blowing text back of " thank you!!! " normally I wouldn't notice, but she never sent emojis at all to me and all of a sudden I get the growing heart emoji... If it had been the purple or green heart, I wouldn't even think about it, but that one got to me. My question to you guys is"what the **** is this girls deal? And what the **** do I do? I like her, but I'm not sure what her deal is??? She has also randomly snap chatted me a few times, the past week, and she never did that during the 1st 2 dates timeframe

 

My question to you guys is"what the **** is this girls deal? -- She told you . . . I do really enjoy spending time with you right now it’s just on a friend level

snap chat, social media crap is friendzone crap. Respond/don't respond, but don't read into it.

 

She's not driving you nuts, you're driving yourself nuts looking at insignificant things to give you hope.

Edited September 14, 2016 by Redhead14

[Buddhist]

You realise she only wants to be your friend, pink heart emoji or not. You're reading into things. She has firmly established that she has no sexual attraction to you and none of her texts have been flirty or indicating anything else. It's obvious that random texting and Facebook likes are how she treats friends. If you don't like that stop responding to her. She even offered to set you up with one of her friends. This is not ever becoming more than that. Accept it.

[LostOnes05]

My friend, you may not be an entitled jerk but you are in the friend zone. Not a big deal. It happens, not every woman will fall head over heels in love with you. But you are thinking WAY too hard about an emoji and some Facebook likes...they mean nothing.

 

You're only going to drive yourself crazy analyzing her every move. She only wants friendship. Have you ever known anyone that wanted to possibly date someone say "you're a great guy, I just don't feel it but maybe if we're friends that will change"? In the movies that might work, not so much real life. You become an accessory or the guy she callsto vent when another guy breaks her heart. Or you become the emotional hook up buddy when she is in need of an ego boost. She just wants friendship...it's up to you to take it or leave it.