BubblesPink Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 So I recently downloaded Bumble, and I saw a guy who looked cute. He had a picture that made him easily identifiable, he's a player for a local sports team, so I just googled his jersey number and the team name, and his social media accounts came up at the top. I was planning on swiping right, but since Bumble makes the girl message first, and only gives you 24 hours, I was waiting until I could come up with a good opening line. That was about a week ago, so I went to check the app yesterday and he's not there anymore (bumble keeps the same person at the top usually, and my radius is small so I don't have that many people to swipe through), I'm not sure if he deleted his profile, I accidentally swiped left, (I've done it before), or if Bumble is just messing up, (it's very buggy), but now I feel like I lost my chance. If I go and message him on Twitter or Facebook, would that be too creepy? He has a pretty public job, so it's not like he makes it hard for people to find him. But I don't want to come off as a weirdo or creep, especially since he could always show up again and I just effectively ruined any opportunity I had. So is this just too off-putting and creepy? I know it's a little weird, but I'm not sure if it reaches the level of way too much. And if I do message him, what would I even say? I don't have much, (read: any), experience with guys and I'm not sure what to do. Thanks!
smackie9 Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 "Hey I saw you on Bumble, would you be interested in going out for a drink?" 1
Erik30 Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 It's only "creepy" if he's not attracted to you. That's pretty much how it works 2
Author BubblesPink Posted September 15, 2016 Author Posted September 15, 2016 "Hey I saw you on Bumble, would you be interested in going out for a drink?" That's actually a really good message! I always overthink what to write, so it would not have been as eloquent as this haha. Thank you! It's only "creepy" if he's not attracted to you. That's pretty much how it works I hadn't thought about that, but that's very true. If he liked me on Bumble, he'll like the message, if he didn't then he won't. I shouldn't worry about what might happen. Thank you for this perspective!
Sunkissedpatio Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 Why not just message him on Bumble? The fact you went through all that trouble to find him elsewhere is kinda creepy, or rather can come across that way. But at the end of the day I have to agree with Erik, the rule of thumb sort of is if they like you = not creepy, if they don't = creepy.
Author BubblesPink Posted September 15, 2016 Author Posted September 15, 2016 Why not just message him on Bumble? The fact you went through all that trouble to find him elsewhere is kinda creepy, or rather can come across that way. But at the end of the day I have to agree with Erik, the rule of thumb sort of is if they like you = not creepy, if they don't = creepy. I would much prefer to message him on Bumble, but unfortunately his profile isn't showing up for me anymore. I'm not sure if I swiped left, if Bumble messed something up or if he deactivated his account, but either way he's not there anymore. I know it comes across as creepy and that's my dilemma. I mean I didn't try to find his social media accounts, I was just curious if he actually played for the sports team, so I googled the team name + jersey number, and his accounts were there. When I couldn't see his profile I remembered that his Twitter account was a result when I looked up his jersey number, so I thought about messaging him on there. Yeah, that sounds pretty reasonable. If he likes me he might be flattered I wanted to message him, and if he doesn't he'll think I'm a stalker Now I just need to stop my word vomit and come up with a succinct, not embarrassing message.
Sunkissedpatio Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 Oh I see. And I also just remembered that Bumble is where women have to initiate contact so he went on there expecting that. Then go for it, contact him on Twitter! Send him a DM saying something like "saw you on Bumble but never got a chance to contact you found you here" Or you could just say "you look familiar, I think I saw you on Bumble was that you?
spmh1017 Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 Met my GF on a dating site. We talked for a bit but I was terrible at "escalating" (asking her out) and we drifted apart and stopped talking for 2 months. She found me on FB, friend request me, and sent a message saying "So, reading anything new?" Then asked if I wanted to meet for a drink. That was over a year ago and we are still together.
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