Bernardine222 Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 Okay,so cut the story short.i am working and studying in austria,my boyfriend is working in croatia. I come from Croatia too and we are in a ldr for more than 4 years. We have had some issues but we love each other and we are not giving up. Well thing is,he went here and there for bussines trips and it was usually okay max one week,but he would be very very busy...everything was in the same country. Today he told me that in two weeks he will probably go with collegues to Srbia for two days to to give a presentation eventhough he will not be working so much.the thing i am writing is one female colleuge is going with them and i dont feel so comfortable with it. I know bussines trip and stuff and usually they dont have much to socialise...but this time they will be sharing a rent car for 6 to 7 hours,then probably sightseeing a lot and having fun...what do you do when its a situation like that?i dont feel good about it and have problem accepting it... I talked to my boyfriend about it he told me that its gonna be a group he wont be one on one...but still i have this feeling in my stomach that they are going to get friends now and when the trip is over that they will take breaks together etc... Did anybody had a similar situation before? P.s. the reason i feel so uncomfortable with it is because this female coworker is like my age,totaly my boyfriends type and not sure if she has a boyfriend And please help me to get over with it,some constructive advice would be very helpful (And yes i trust my boyfriend and knows that he loves me much,but now i really need to talk to somebody about it)thank you!
Lois_Griffin Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 So you've been in a long distance 'relationship' for 4 YEARS? What's the end goal in all this? A lifetime of Skyping each other from different parts of the globe? People often say to never ignore your gut when it's screaming at you. Yours is screaming for a reason, so why would I try to delude you and tell you to ignore it just to make you feel better? That's foolish. Don't ignore your gut.
Author Bernardine222 Posted September 16, 2016 Author Posted September 16, 2016 Dear Lois_Griffin Thank you for your reply! I appreciate it! We are working on it that he moves here,where better situation is,but still he couldn't get a job,i.e. we are looking at his possibility to work remote so then it wouldnt be problem. Even though i would like him to move in with me like instantly and I am praying for it for already 2 years or more, i still have to be patient with it. Yeah i know that your gut feeling is always right and i believe in it too,but this time i cannot say like dont go or i dont know...i will try to talk to him about it even more to feel secured but i wanted to hear what would one do in this kind of situation... He promised me that he wont go alone somewhere with her and that they will be in a group.
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