New to LDR with army guy...wants me to meet parents, good thing?

[hopelessromanticchic]

Ok, so about a month ago I was here sad and heartbroken because this guy I was involved with didn't want a relationship with me even though he acted as if he did. He was a womanizer and was messing around with other women. So I ended up breaking ties with him deleted him from my socials and deleted his number ...we havnt talked since. I decided that being single was the best for me to work on myself etc and I didn't want to be romantically involved with anyone not even sexually.

 

A couple weeks later I took a vacation trip with a girl friend to Hawaii. We were there for a week. The second night we went out and I met a guy my friend and I didn't have cash to pay for the cover charge and we were waiting for our new buddy who went to the ATM. This guy paid for our entrance. I thought it was so sweet and I felt obligated to atleast have a dance with him and talk to him atleast. Well from one dance it turned out to be the whole night lol he got very clingy with me and we were talking a lot we kissed and we were drinking. He brought me to meet his friends he was with that night and stuff. I really didn't want meet anyone on vacation especially when he's in the military and stationed in Hawaii and me in the east coast of the US. So I kind of got a bit annoyed by this guy I wanted to leave I was tired and I was getting irritated and didn't want to let me go he wanted to walk me to my hotel and of course I told him no I literally ran away like cinderella did and he stood there on the sidewalk looking at me as I was leaving lol

 

So the next day he texted me telling me thank you that he had a great night and he really enjoyed meeting me. He wanted to see me again and kept asking me questions about what I do for a living and just wanting to get to know me. I honestly tried to ignore his texts but he would double text sometimes but not being annoying at all. Anywho I responded and kept texting with him I kind of started to like him a bit from the conversations we were having but I knew it was impossible. I've never done it but I know Long distance relationships can be hard. He wanted to take me and my friend out to dinner the last night we were there. Unfortunately we calculated wrong and that night he was supposed to take us out we had to go home. I was so sad; one, because I loved my experience in Hawaii.. it was paradise! And I really needed it to help me heal from that idiot I was dealing with before the trip. Second, I would have liked to see this guy again.

 

Fast forward to now. We are in an LDR. We've been texting talking on he phone face-timing .. he doesn't have social media so I can't see what he's up to on a daily basis unless he tells me. He said he's done the long distance thing with his previous gf from his hometown in Colorado. So he wouldn't mind another one. So We were planning me going back to Hawaii for New Years but now he's thinking of going home for New Years.. actually he wants to leave the army and return home. He wants me to come to Colorado to meet his family. He says he wants me to get to know him better and the only way is seeing how he is around his family and his hometown friends and wants me to be part of that. I don't mind that at all I agreed. (Although I would have loved to go back to Hawaii instead lol have to postpone another trip there).

 

I like this guy. He wants a relationship with me and makes plans with me. But I'm just scared that maybe we're rushing things? Idk I mean how much can you rush being in a LDR? Lol we havnt had sex but we talk almost daily. It will be 4 months of us talking by the time I see him again in person. Everyone I've told about this tell me that I really have nothing to lose with this that in fact an LDR is more than just a physical relationship. It's deeper since both people have to out 100% effort into it and communicate. Otherwise it dies fast. I'm not doubting anything at all im just trying to get some advice or opinions from you guys if you have any I'd appreciate it. Give me some tips on how LDRs should work. How often should we talk? etc.

 

Thank you!!

Edited September 14, 2016 by hopelessromanticchic