BikerAccnt Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 More than once we are faced with posts that are manipulated to put the OP in a better light. What?!?! Here on LS? That would never happen!
camillalev Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 OP, if shes shy she might have grown up in an environment where self expression and voicing your concerns isn't nurtured or is reprimanded. I'll admit I had/have the same issues sometimes due to a dissmissive, abusive and critical upbringing. It took someone who is open and understanding to help me see that its ok to bring up issues calmly when they arise and that it can be received with understanding and care to help me get through it. It could also be her way of keeping you at arms length emotionally, I occasionally deal with that as well. It can be easier to be mad and express that rather than to open yourself up and be vulnerable. Maybe she has the similar issuess? 1
Sunkissedpatio Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 OP, if shes shy she might have grown up in an environment where self expression and voicing your concerns isn't nurtured or is reprimanded. I'll admit I had/have the same issues sometimes due to a dissmissive, abusive and critical upbringing. It took someone who is open and understanding to help me see that its ok to bring up issues calmly when they arise and that it can be received with understanding and care to help me get through it. It could also be her way of keeping you at arms length emotionally, I occasionally deal with that as well. It can be easier to be mad and express that rather than to open yourself up and be vulnerable. Maybe she has the similar issuess? Was thinking the same thing last night, like perhaps there was something in her upbringing that taught her to just shut up about her feelings because expressing them would get her nowhere. People who grew up in strict households with a domineering parent(s) who was(were) only interested in issuing punitive action, and not hearing any sort of explanation, would have a greater tendency to bottle things up.
phineas Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 The way you've worded this post, it sounds like her getting mad is a relatively common occurrence which you have to deal with. Just how often does she get mad? And what types of things does she get mad over? If she is mad so much that this is a regular thing i'd bail.
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