1Jessie86 Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 I always thought so due to limited interaction and awkwardness. Have times changed?
Sunkissedpatio Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 It's not so much about what's en vogue but more if the first date is with someone you know already or a stranger you are getting to know. The former, it wouldn't matter since you know the basics, the latter not so much. 1
CarrieT Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 I always hated them for the exact reason cited: How do you get to know someone when you are sitting in the dark, not communicating... 2
BaileyB Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 I wouldn't chose a movie date for the first date, particularly if you don't know the person. You want to get to know them on the first date. However, I do like movie dates during the first few dates because there is less pressure for conversation. And, you can always go for coffee/drink/ice cream after the movie...
Bialy Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 No, movie dates are still awful as a first date. It works better as a 3rd or 4th date option. The only time I think it would be OK to see a movie on a first date is if you have had a chance to talk to the person for an hour or so before it - whether that be on a city walk or if you've been having a good time while having a coffee. If both people are free to catch a movie then, go for it. 3
Gloria25 Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 No, movie dates are still awful as a first date. It works better as a 3rd or 4th date option. The only time I think it would be OK to see a movie on a first date is if you have had a chance to talk to the person for an hour or so before it - whether that be on a city walk or if you've been having a good time while having a coffee. If both people are free to catch a movie then, go for it. This...above I did a first date at the movies. Hated it. No opportunity to talk. But, believe it or not, we had talked so much on the phone before meeting that the intrigue/mystique was gone before the date even happened. So, the movie was pretty much the nail in the coffin for my interest level. 1
Ami1uwant Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 This...above I did a first date at the movies. Hated it. No opportunity to talk. But, believe it or not, we had talked so much on the phone before meeting that the intrigue/mystique was gone before the date even happened. So, the movie was pretty much the nail in the coffin for my interest level. That is why you shouldn't talk that much before a first date. 1
Ami1uwant Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 The only times you can see a movie first date... 1. You are both interests in movies..especially index ones. 2. You two have knew each other before you dated like coworkers. Or friends who decided to try dating. 3
SammySammy Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 Don't overcomplicate it. During the movie is not the only time you have to talk. All you want to do on a first date is have a good time and see if you vibe with a person. You don't need in-depth conversation or to know their life history to determine if you want to hang out with them again. If both of you want to get to know each other better, meet again. If one of you doesn't want to go any further, then don't hang out again. Don't make it hard. I typically avoid dinner and a movie dates because it's what regular guys do. I try to avoid doing anything the typical guy would do. But, on occasion, I have gone on typical dinner and a movie dates with great success. Getting to know someone is a process that surely takes more than one date. Don't worry if you don't figure it all out on the first date. Just go and have a good time. 2
Erik30 Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 Movies are a bad idea as a first or second date. It's a waste of your date. You can only talk on your way to the theatre and after the movie, which often doesn't last too long (even if you do get a drink afterwards) since it's usually pretty late at night at that point. Then you go home and realize nothing really happened, you just sat next to your date in silence for two hours. 1
kendahke Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 I always thought so due to limited interaction and awkwardness. Have times changed? I think it's a horrible idea for a first date, but then again, I'm not a "let's go the cinema and see a movie" kind of person. There are too many other interesting things to do on a first date--going to the movie shows a lack of imagination. 2
SwordofFlame Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 I think movie dates should be avoided for the first three dates. The point of the first three dates is to get to know your date. I don't know see how watching a movie in a theater with someone helps you get to know them. Unless, you're trying to read his nonverbal subtle communication through body language? See if he puts his arm around you while watching the movie? 1
Larryville Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 Me, I think that if someone specifically chose to go to a movie on a first date OR first few dates is masking poor communication interaction skills. Hiding something. If I’m attracted to someone and enjoy them why in the world would I want to be in a dark theater? I’d want to see her as much as possible. 1
smackie9 Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 (edited) I would rather go to a cocktail hour where it's lively, drinks sooth the nerves, and conversation is fun....you can check out the body language etc. I always liked my dates with lots of interaction. Edited September 14, 2016 by smackie9
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