unsafe Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 So I dated a guy for two months. We were friends for about 2 years first. This past week has been hell. Granted neither he or I have contacted each other to end it. But I am wondering do we have to? So things were good. He was kinda flaky and I called him on it. Told him I wouldn't/couldn't stand for that crap. Sorry but you ask me out you should come through. If I ask you out and you say yes you should show up! So anyway things were good we told me he was so happy and this was the best thing so far and things couldn't have been going better for us. We saw each other about 2 times a week. But last week I didn't see him at all. He was busy with work and moving into his first place. But he asked me to come out at the begining of the week for that weekend. But when the weekend came I didn't hear from him. When he finally called I asked about the move and he didn't say anything. I know assuming is bad but I thought if he wanted me there he would mention it again. Then we had plans to party at one of my friends houses for the 4th of July. He called to confirm Monday. He said he had to make an appearance at a friends bbq but he would be out my way around 6:30 7. Well 5 o'clock rolled around and i missed his call. He left a message saying he was to drunk to drive and for me to have a good time and to call him later. I was so pissed. Not only had I not seen or heard from him that week really but now he was standing me up. I was hurt. I guess I was just not that important to him. I still haven't heard from him and its Wednesday. I know I am cuting the tie. We were friends which sucks about that way he handled things. he could have told me that morning he just wasn't feeling up to coming out. Or whatever! But he didn't he told me he would be there. I am realizing he isn't the kind of guy I want around. But my ego is hurt why did he tell me all these things why did he mention he wanted me to move in with him. He wanted me to quite my job and find one closer to him. I just don't get it? I don't want to deal with it and I know thats the chicken way out. But I if he doesn't think me which it sounds like I would rather just move on then have to have another guy tell me this isn't going to work out. And truely I don't believe I did anything to make this guy not like me anymore. He was all into me I know it. I could feel it. It was there. I just guess he has other priorties. So should I talk to him if he tries to call? Should I send him an e-mail or call to end it. Or just leave it?
Merin Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 Well honestly while I can understand you're upset that he couldn't make it to the party with you and yes he shouldn't have drank to the point of not being able to drive out your way and go with you to the party.. I guess I also don't see that he committed anything to henious in calling to let you know that he had been drinking and didn't feel he should be driving.. it happens from time to time that you may have the best of intentions but get to a get together and perhaps drink a bit more than you should.. not that it makes it right but yeah it happens. He DID call to let you know and again while I understand that you're upset that he wasn't able to come, you missed his call and I suppose other plans could've been made at that point (like if you had wanted to go and pick him up to come with you) I dunno.. IMO he was at least responsible enough to not drink and drive and risk a DUI or injury to someone else, he did call you although you missed his call... and at this point my guess is you haven't heard from him because I'm sure he knows you're pissed off being that you never tried to get in contact with him after he had let you know he wasn't able to drive down to go with you to the party. If you should call or contact him is up to you... If you feel this event was a deal breaker, then by all means move on. My 2 cent's
sanne Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 when your with someone that wants to be with you they'll do anything and everything to come out and see you. they will make the extra effort and do anything they can just to spend a moment with you. this guy doesn't sound like the one, move on and find someone else.
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