Left for someone else (essentially)

[Broken2016]

Hello everyone,

 

A few months ago I went through a break-up with my partner who I had been with for 4 years. The months prior to the break up were bliss. We had an amazing connection and felt even closer due to previous issues we had faced.

 

Anyway, issues started to arise. For example, one evening I decided to pop to my friends house down the road. I was going to be seeing my boyfriend the next day,we had a great weekend planned together. However, due to me not answering my phone while I was at my friend's house, my ex-took huge offence to this and told me to f*ck off and that the relationship was over. He claimed I had lied to him and that he deserved better. It all got a bit crazy. He went as far as blocking me from social media. The next day came around and we made up. He ended up coming over to my house and we had a good, positive weekend after I voiced how I was not happy with how he spoke to me.

 

Even though we made up, things got worse and worse. It ended up with him calling me a lot of nasty names due to me being distant from him ( I felt pushed away due to how things had been). We ended up talking again a few days later though, however, and it seemed like we both still wanted to be with each other. Only, I found out that he had, in ,fact met another girl during this time and met up with her. He must of soon realised that he had a spark with this girl and therefore dropped me like a hot potato. He became incredibly cold towards me claiming he no longer loved me and that he was in a perfect relationship. (just to say, this all happened within a space of a few weeks).

 

Basically now, I just really miss him and I am hurting a huge amount. People keep telling me it will get better but I just can't see the light. Other men don't interest me at the moment and I just long for him. Any advice or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated.

 

Thanks,

[Nadine123]

Hi there

 

I was also left for someone else, a friend, which makes thing even worse. The most important thing is for you to stay NC and delete/block him everywhere and trust me, it does get better. Just please make sure you stay occupied.

[gracey123]

Go NC! It'll only hurt your poor heart even further seeing him flaunt his new girlfriend, it'll be a rebound anyway most likely. He sounds pathetic and childish, as though he used relationships for an ego boost. Keep NC and just hold your head high when he is back again begging you back and you're over him! Stay strong honey, things will get better, just take each day as it is! No ones gonna rush you into being happy straight away x if you ever need to talk I'm here x

[Alamo657]

That's very common, the on/off period is when they try to decide where to go, desperately holding on to their memories of how you were at the beginning, realizing they'll never get that special moment back again because the spark has run its course, and more often than not they choose the excitement of novelty over the routine of an established relationship.

 

Block him on all social media, block his phone number and then delete it from your view, hide all the mementos of the relationship, and keep yourself busy. Take dancing classes, increase your activities, it won't magically heal your broken heart over night, but you will heal faster if you meet new people and start new things, and don't let him have a way of contacting you and play with your feelings.

[Broken2016]

Thank you so much for the replies everyone. I have already gone no contact, it's been that way for nearly two months now. I have also blocked him on everything as I could not bare to see them post things, as like Gracey123 pointed out- he's flaunted her like no tomorrow since they first became connected on social media. Pictures, statues, the lot. Out of site out of mind has definitely made things better, however I still feel quite intense emotional pain. I do have my good days now, though.

[Broken2016]

I am so sorry this happened to you, especially with a friend. I really hope you're doing better now.

[Nadine123]

Believe me I know how you feel. My advice for you to stay away from NC. No matter how curious you get or how much you miss him.

 

I know this is easier said than done but be glad that he left now than a couple of months or a year from now. Imagine the amount of more time you would have wasted on this jerk. Plus, it's his loss. He lost an amazing faithful girl and what did you lose, an immature cheater.

[LastAcorn99]

Aww...i'm sorry about this. Breakup is never easy on anyone. Yes, take time off to grieve the end of this relationship, but remember that there are better days ahead. And, please, never settle for a relationship that does not embrace love, trust, and respect to the T. Hugs to you!