To out... Or... Not to out?...

[Ronnie33]

You aren't outing her to be nobel, you are out of her for revenge and because you are insecure about their past. This whole thing is hypocritical. You all cheated, not one of you is better then the other.

 

Its a revenge move, you should be worried about your boyfriend, who has been cheating since day one, and not about the MOW.

[xxoo]

I think telling would be the right thing to do. I probably wouldn't have the guts to do it, though.

 

In your shoes, I'd have a much easier time dumping my SO than telling the other betrayed spouse. He'd be gone.

[sandylee1]

I don't really feel motivation is the issue. In the BS position as long as I'm being told the truth, the motivation of the informant is irrelevant.

 

Some people are informed when their WS falls out with a friend who previously knew about their cheating ways, but said nothing. Motivation in these situations is clearly revenge. However, the fact still remains that your spouse/BF/GF cheated. If they didn't, there'd be nothing to tell.

 

Nobody wants their partner to cheat, but if it's happening then most people would want to know. It's usually fear that makes people want to remain ignorant of the truth.

 

Why should this man be kept in the dark, while his wife sleeps around. The truth empowers you to decide what to do. He can do what he likes with the truth, but that decision would be his and his alone.

[goodyblue]

After you have told your families about your cheating,your boyfriend's serial cheating, after you tell your friends, warn them that neither of you can be trusted with their spouse, then, and only then, should you tell your boyfriend's AP's husband.

[Robert]

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