NolaLeForte Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 If you could have/do/understand/learn anything in the world to make your breakup easier, what would it be? 1
SammySammy Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 To learn that what other people do is not about me. Their actions are a revelation of who they are - their truth and their reality. I'm responsible for being my best and giving my best to the world. Responsible for my actions (and inaction), but nothing more. I've got to let others live their truth while I live mine. 5
Author NolaLeForte Posted September 13, 2016 Author Posted September 13, 2016 very very true, and that's one of the hardest things to really take in but it helped me immensely when I did. When i realized that his actions were about him, and not about me i was able to stop asking myself why did he do this, or what does that mean, etc and just release it and move on instead of trying to figure out and microanalyze what I did wrong. Our partners are in a lot of ways a mirror of us, so it's easy to forget that the things that they did, weren't necessarily done to us. 1
Nadine123 Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 Why he didnt communicate his issues with me? Why he decided to ghost me instead of speaking to me about it. Why he is now dating my friend? Many things, but I have learned through time that everything happens for a reason and that I'm glad he did this now than waste more of my time.
gracey123 Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 I wish I could learn that I am worth more than my treatment, and that it isn't all my fault. I wish I could have answers and I wish I was strong
aloneinaz Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 I think all of us who've gone through a tough break up wish we'd of done one thing differently. We wouldn't of taken it so damn seriously. There are a lot of things to take very serious in this life but MOST of us take a break up like it's a terminal cancer diagnosis. As we get older, we realize that R/S's come and go in life. Whether w/a best friend or a lover. We should be wired to understand they don't all work out and end. Some by our choosing and others by theirs. It's simply a part of life. The sooner we understand that each of us are NOT everyone's cup of tea and stop worrying about what other people think, the sooner we'll be happier. 1
RyanO1991 Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 (edited) I wish I could stop thinking about getting revenge - it would be so easy for me to ruin my cheating ex's career with one single picture to the right person. I know I won't do it, but it's a thought that keeps getting me. Edited September 13, 2016 by RyanO1991
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