Sanman023 Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 I'm going through a divorce and just broke up with my girlfriend. I'm 39 and she's 35". I've been friends with this girl for about a year and and dated about 4 months. We got along fine and never argued. We saw each other every weekend. A couple of weeks ago she broke it off because I am going through a divorce. I was on no contact up to last night....I LIKED A FACEBOOK PIC OF HER'S FROM 3 YEARS AGO!!!!!! I'm not even a facebook person, I was just checking out her photos. Such a stalker....
aloneinaz Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 Block her. YUP! Blocking her will disable your ability to view her page, photo's or anything else.
HeartbrokenHooligan Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 i would try to stay off social media all the way. its not good for you when your going through withdrawals of a relationship and missing the other person
gracey123 Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 I deleted my Facebook because it was easier. You haven't done anything bad! Just a little mistake we all accidentally make them sometimes, maybe block her for the time being until your heart is healed. If you're looking for something on there, you'll most likely find something regardless of how it will upset you, but it most likely will upset you. Stay strong x
Author Sanman023 Posted September 13, 2016 Author Posted September 13, 2016 Thanks all for the advice. Here is more background about the relationship. It started out as friends for a year and got serious for four months. During the 4 months, my divorce was filed. I told her if we're going to make this work, we will have to go very slow. We got intimate every every weekend. We have a lot in common and I wanted the best for her. She has a 12 year old boy and I get along with him. But we did have to sneak around and schedule times so that we could be alone. She called it off because I'm still going through a divorce and it's extremely difficult to get serious. She also wanted to set a good example for her kid that she shouldn't be dating a man that is still "married". I really want this relationship to work. I think the timing is off. I'm debating if no contact is the best way to go here. I just think she got tired of the sneaking around and doesn't feel like she's the #1 priority. No contact for two weeks so far.
aloneinaz Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 Was this GF and R/S the reason for the divorce or where you already going through the divorce when it turned from platonic to intimate?
JewelD Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 Thanks all for the advice. Here is more background about the relationship. It started out as friends for a year and got serious for four months. During the 4 months, my divorce was filed. I told her if we're going to make this work, we will have to go very slow. We got intimate every every weekend. We have a lot in common and I wanted the best for her. She has a 12 year old boy and I get along with him. But we did have to sneak around and schedule times so that we could be alone. She called it off because I'm still going through a divorce and it's extremely difficult to get serious. She also wanted to set a good example for her kid that she shouldn't be dating a man that is still "married". I really want this relationship to work. I think the timing is off. I'm debating if no contact is the best way to go here. I just think she got tired of the sneaking around and doesn't feel like she's the #1 priority. No contact for two weeks so far. So you were having an affair with her? She made the right choice, it makes absolutely no sense to try to start a 'healthy' relationship with a married person. Leave this woman alone, at least until your divorce is finalized.
Author Sanman023 Posted September 13, 2016 Author Posted September 13, 2016 Clarification: my marriage was over all long time ago...emotional affair till the divorce was final
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