Trinity_84 Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 My ex and I have been broken up for eight months. I got a new boyfriend shortly after we broke up and he became really needy. He didn’t take it well and begged for me back. I acted cold towards him to not give him any false hope. He waited for me for eight months but he recently blocked me on all of his social media and sent me this email: It’s been a little while. I hope you are well. I am doing good. I wasn’t going to say anything but I want to for courtesy and to avoid any misunderstandings. I just need some space from us on social media. For now anyway. At least until I am ready to be truly just friends. It is just too painful right now for me still. It has been the most hardest, but also grateful for the personal growth last eight months for me. So I will be removing myself from your social media Even though I don’t see your posts, just seeing your profile pic brings up to many emotions for me. Even just little things like seeing that you’re going to an event. I also found that every time I posted something, I was always thinking if you would see it and what you would think. And I don’t want to post things for that reason.I realize that being friends with you on social media keeps me holding on to any last tiny shred of hope that we will get back together. This also feels like one of the hardest and scariest things for me to do because it seems so final and really cutting ties. That is why I held out for so long. But I can’t keep pretending that I am fine. That is why I need to do this. So that I can heal, fully let go and move on. I just want you to know that it has nothing to do with anything that you did. I am sorry that I could not move on still and I hate that I cannot. But I am nowdetermined to build a new life. It is time to let go and free myself from myself-imposed prison. I don’t want to keep living in the past. I want to be happy and positive and start fresh. I know you will understand. Please know that you are still and will always be one of the most important people in my life. You can always message me anytime if you ever need help. I will always be here for you. You mean so much to me forever and I love the heck out of you and always will. You’re so freaking amazing. And please know that I am so proud of you and so happy for you. You also don’t need to reply back. I know that you would want what is best for me. So I guess with that said....goodbye. You are seriously the best and most wonderful person,and I wish you all the success and happiness in the world. Love you always Does this mean that he has accepted the break-up now and is moving on? Trying to get a reaction out of me? Any hidden meanings? Are you serious with the thread title OP? He explained very thoroughly WHY he blocked you. Why do you even care if you have had a boyfriend for months now, anyway? Are you still in love with your ex?
Blanco Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 My guess is that the OP rebounded into a new relationship and while she didn't and doesn't want to be back with her ex, it was comforting to know he was the safety net option. Now, she has to deal with the reality that he's moving on and will not be there as a Plan B should her current relationship fail. Even if nothing in the OP's current relationship has changed, this latest development adds a lot more pressure to the relationship. Because if this doesn't work out, she won't have the ex to cushion the blow. It's yet another reason to move along after a breakup if you've been dumped and they get with someone else right away. They want the new relationship? Let them have it, but don't let them think you'll be waiting in the wings as some sort of backup plan. 3
Latino4Lyfe Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 Well said Blanco, another thing I have noticed to add to that is that the OP has yet to reply to any of the opinions, statements, and advice we have given her. She only made this one post and poof...gone. Either it's possible she might be trolling, or she did not like the responses we gave her and was expecting us to tell her that her ex is sending her hidden messages and cause drama . 1
loveSick145 Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 him saying all that isn't trying to get a rise out of you, he is genuine hurt and is trying to get over you. people grieve in different ways, guys for the most part don't put any hidden meaning into things like women do. we're pretty blunt, just let him be.
Trinity_84 Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 Well said Blanco, another thing I have noticed to add to that is that the OP has yet to reply to any of the opinions, statements, and advice we have given her. She only made this one post and poof...gone. Either it's possible she might be trolling, or she did not like the responses we gave her and was expecting us to tell her that her ex is sending her hidden messages and cause drama . I noticed the exact same thing. I thought "either troll or just didn't get the answers she wanted"
Blanco Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 To be fair, she did have another post as she started another thread about this subject that the mods merged. I referenced it in one of my earlier posts. However, that second post from her made it sound like this was indeed more about what she wants rather than caring about her ex's feelings and doing what's best for him.
Trinity_84 Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 Could you quote her post? I don't think I saw it.
sooshi Posted September 15, 2016 Posted September 15, 2016 Trinity, it seems that the post has been deleted for whatever reason. I agree with Blanco's take on the post.
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