Love1980 Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 My ex and I have been broken up for eight months. I got a new boyfriend shortly after we broke up and he became really needy. He didn’t take it well and begged for me back. I acted cold towards him to not give him any false hope. He waited for me for eight months but he recently blocked me on all of his social media and sent me this email: It’s been a little while. I hope you are well. I am doing good. I wasn’t going to say anything but I want to for courtesy and to avoid any misunderstandings. I just need some space from us on social media. For now anyway. At least until I am ready to be truly just friends. It is just too painful right now for me still. It has been the most hardest, but also grateful for the personal growth last eight months for me. So I will be removing myself from your social media Even though I don’t see your posts, just seeing your profile pic brings up to many emotions for me. Even just little things like seeing that you’re going to an event. I also found that every time I posted something, I was always thinking if you would see it and what you would think. And I don’t want to post things for that reason.I realize that being friends with you on social media keeps me holding on to any last tiny shred of hope that we will get back together. This also feels like one of the hardest and scariest things for me to do because it seems so final and really cutting ties. That is why I held out for so long. But I can’t keep pretending that I am fine. That is why I need to do this. So that I can heal, fully let go and move on. I just want you to know that it has nothing to do with anything that you did. I am sorry that I could not move on still and I hate that I cannot. But I am nowdetermined to build a new life. It is time to let go and free myself from myself-imposed prison. I don’t want to keep living in the past. I want to be happy and positive and start fresh. I know you will understand. Please know that you are still and will always be one of the most important people in my life. You can always message me anytime if you ever need help. I will always be here for you. You mean so much to me forever and I love the heck out of you and always will. You’re so freaking amazing. And please know that I am so proud of you and so happy for you. You also don’t need to reply back. I know that you would want what is best for me. So I guess with that said....goodbye. You are seriously the best and most wonderful person,and I wish you all the success and happiness in the world. Love you always Does this mean that he has accepted the break-up now and is moving on? Trying to get a reaction out of me? Any hidden meanings? 1
PegNosePete Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 I think he outlined his reasons for blocking you quite exhaustively. Yet you're still over-thinking it? Why? He is hurt and seeing you on social media hurts him more. Just leave him alone. 9
ManyDissapoint Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 I would take his words at face value. Sounds like its been really hard on him. I recommend blocking him too and focusing on your own life. 2
stillafool Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 My ex and I have been broken up for eight months. I got a new boyfriend shortly after we broke up and he became really needy. He didn’t take it well and begged for me back. I acted cold towards him to not give him any false hope. He waited for me for eight months but he recently blocked me on all of his social media and sent me this email: It’s been a little while. I hope you are well. I am doing good. I wasn’t going to say anything but I want to for courtesy and to avoid any misunderstandings. I just need some space from us on social media. For now anyway. At least until I am ready to be truly just friends. It is just too painful right now for me still. It has been the most hardest, but also grateful for the personal growth last eight months for me. So I will be removing myself from your social media Even though I don’t see your posts, just seeing your profile pic brings up to many emotions for me. Even just little things like seeing that you’re going to an event. I also found that every time I posted something, I was always thinking if you would see it and what you would think. And I don’t want to post things for that reason.I realize that being friends with you on social media keeps me holding on to any last tiny shred of hope that we will get back together. This also feels like one of the hardest and scariest things for me to do because it seems so final and really cutting ties. That is why I held out for so long. But I can’t keep pretending that I am fine. That is why I need to do this. So that I can heal, fully let go and move on. I just want you to know that it has nothing to do with anything that you did. I am sorry that I could not move on still and I hate that I cannot. But I am nowdetermined to build a new life. It is time to let go and free myself from myself-imposed prison. I don’t want to keep living in the past. I want to be happy and positive and start fresh. I know you will understand. Please know that you are still and will always be one of the most important people in my life. You can always message me anytime if you ever need help. I will always be here for you. You mean so much to me forever and I love the heck out of you and always will. You’re so freaking amazing. And please know that I am so proud of you and so happy for you. You also don’t need to reply back. I know that you would want what is best for me. So I guess with that said....goodbye. You are seriously the best and most wonderful person,and I wish you all the success and happiness in the world. Love you always Does this mean that he has accepted the break-up now and is moving on? Trying to get a reaction out of me? Any hidden meanings? Why do women always think there's a hidden meaning to everything? No, he's very clear about how he feels and what he wants. He is doing the right thing and like he said there is no reason to reply back. Just keep moving on with your new boyfriend. 3
frigginlost Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 I think he outlined his reasons for blocking you quite exhaustively. Yet you're still over-thinking it? Why? He is hurt and seeing you on social media hurts him more. Just leave him alone. ^^^ That. Why are you on a message board asking questions about what he has done 8 months after you broke up? Do not get me wrong, I am not faulting you for doing so at all. But, it would seem to me that you may have some unresolved feeling regarding him... He outlined very well why he blocked you. He still has feelings and seeing you hurts him. He is trying to move on and it is very painful for him to do so. Do not contact him, do not answer him, do not do anything related to him, unless you have any wants to work things out with him. Anything less than that would be cruel. 5
Satu Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 Take him at his word and let him go. It's the best option. Take care. 1
Blanco Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 Poor guy couldn't have been more straight forward and upfront about what he was doing and why he was doing it. Enjoy your relationship and please let this other guy leave your life so he can finally move on. 6
Bialy Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 Please leave him be. Don't respond back. His email was clear and very straightforward. 1
Zahara Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 Does this mean that he has accepted the break-up now and is moving on? Yes, he has accepted it and is finally moving on. He is doing what he needs to do in order to fully detach. Trying to get a reaction out of me? Does it matter? Don't respond and let him be. Any hidden meanings? It means that you get on with your relationship and support his decision to heal and move on from this. All pretty straightforward. Why are you analyzing? If anything, you wanted him to move on and you didn't want to give him hope. This is it. 2
aloneinaz Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 I think the thing you should be focused on OP is why you care one way or the other? It's been 8 months now and it's kind of sad he isn't further down the road in his healing. As a dumper in my past, I would of been disappointed that my ex hadn't moved on already. I'd want them to have healed and found happiness with someone new that was glad they are in their lives. In this case, be compassionate and block him so he can't spy on your social media and ignore his contact. He's a big boy who will eventually move on. 2
jjcher Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 (edited) Oh lord, I registered for an account just to reply to you. You sound so selfish. "Why did he block me? What did I do?" He told you and was honest and vulnerable. Edited September 14, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
wow123 Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 He's a nice guy so he explained exactly why he's doing it so that you don't think that he hates you.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 What is unclear about his email? He told you exactly why he blocked you. Yes, he is moving on. He wants you to know he cares about you but cannot be part of your life in any way. That includes on social media. There are no hidden messages. Why are you looking for any? 1
Latino4Lyfe Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 In all honesty OP, after reading this it looks more to me that deep down you were keeping your ex in the back of your head as a possible "Plan B" in case this new guy you are with does not work out. Now that your ex decided to finally step out, you are shocked, confused and asking questions. There is no hidden meaning to the message, he is just doing you the actual courtesy(which mind you he did not have to one bit but still did...says a lot about him in a positive way) of letting you know that he is moving on and being honest of the reasons. Like the others have said, leave this poor guy alone. It looks like he's already been through enough with you. Do not contact him, unless you one day TRULY 100% want to reach out and work things out with him legitimately. No games, no plan B etc...reaching out for petty friendship or anything else less is insulting. 1
whatnot Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 Poor guy couldn't have been more straight forward and upfront about what he was doing and why he was doing it. Enjoy your relationship and please let this other guy leave your life so he can finally move on. LOL "Poor guy..." Me too. lol What a great guy. Leave him alone. HIS FRIGGIN" HEART IS SHATTERED AND YOU"RE STILL THINKING OF MESSIN" WITH HIM??? Stay out of his life. Please!! 1
whatnot Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 "does this mean he's movin' on??" LOL ' Read between the lines really closely....I think that's what this email is about. Be Good!!
Mr. Karma Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 Please know that you are still and will always be one of the most important people in my life. You can always message me anytime if you ever need help. I will always be here for you. You mean so much to me forever and I love the heck out of you and always will. You’re so freaking amazing. And please know that I am so proud of you and so happy for you. Phew. You really broke this guy his heart. There is no hidden message. There is a clear message that although rambling about moving on he is leaving the door open for you (see the quote above). This is a last, elegant resort for him to get in contact with you. Thank him for his nice message and state that there is no change for the two of you in the future. Let him really move on. I do however question why you posted this question. I think you perfectly know the answer but this just an extra massage for your ego. Karma exists. One day you will be writing a message like this.... 1
sooshi Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 It doesn't matter what they think. Block them everywhere so that you can begin to heal. 1
ty10 Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 OP - May I ask - Why does it wrangle with you that he blocked you, why are you over analyzing? Your ex has been extremely gracious and courteous with that message, in fact I have a lot of respect for what he sent you. You've moved on and he's realised he needs to for his own sanity.
mg101 Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 Block. I tried only deleting but found myself still checking the public parts and wondering if he'll msg me. 1
Scarlett.O'hara Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 In my opinion, deleting leaves a small window open for access. Yes, it could also be a sign of indifference, but it can also suggest the opposite, as either of you can still technically "check in", or in the case of social media, stalk their profile. Whereas if they are blocked, it sends a clear message that you do not want to have anything to do with them anymore, and that you want to move on. It can be a difficult decision to make, but it is extremely helpful for many people dealing with a breakup.
Zahara Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 It doesn't matter what they think. Block them everywhere so that you can begin to heal. OP is in a relationship but is confused as to why her ex, who is still brokenhearted has chosen to block her on social media, when he has clearly indicated it is for him to heal and move on. The ego has taken a hit. 1
sooshi Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 (edited) I agree with Zahara. Your ego has taken a hit. You mentioned in your other thread that he waited eight months for you and then blocked you on social media. Did you expect him to spend the rest of his life waiting for you? It sounds like you enjoy the idea of him chasing after you, since now he's stopped, you seem really bothered by it. You have a boyfriend. Focus on that relationship instead of on your ex-boyfriend, who hoped and waited for you for eight months, and who finally decided to pick up his self-respect and move on. Edited September 14, 2016 by sooshi 3
Blanco Posted September 14, 2016 Posted September 14, 2016 I wanted to give you the benefit of the doubt in your other thread that you were legitimately unsure what his message meant. But this thread makes me think you're just struggling to deal your fallback plan finally doing what's best for HIM and getting on with your life. You have a boyfriend. Your ex politely moving on shouldn't bother you this much if you care about him.
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