Author Lover1978 Posted September 24, 2016 Author Posted September 24, 2016 After 2 days of her text, I asked her 'what exactly do you miss' Her: 'you generally soeaking!' Me:' ok we will see what we can do about it ' Her:'lol,kisses' After one hour Her:'but in order to tell you exactly...your support, your good intentions, your nice manners,your laugh, your hands, and your expensive taste' I haven't replied, I want to ask her out for a date but I m not sure, I see some good points but I also see that she misses the expensive dinners and presents as well, something I cannot provide anymore...:/ I still feel for her, and want her back but I am afraid she is playing... Let's take for granted I want her back, how should I play now, pretend that nothing has changed, hit the reset button and pretend it's our first date...pls help me
fromheart Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 we had sex couple of times, it was good, even though she told me had better sex before... And when someone tell you this; That's it, thank you very much, have a good life and goodbye. NC, never reach out to her ever again. The only thing to do.
Zahara Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 but I am afraid she is playing... Of course she is playing. She knows you have no backbone and that she can use you to get whatever she wants from you. 1
aloneinaz Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 After 2 days of her text, I asked her 'what exactly do you miss' Her: 'you generally soeaking!' Me:' ok we will see what we can do about it ' Her:'lol,kisses' After one hour Her:'but in order to tell you exactly...your support, your good intentions, your nice manners,your laugh, your hands, and your expensive taste' I haven't replied, I want to ask her out for a date but I m not sure, I see some good points but I also see that she misses the expensive dinners and presents as well, something I cannot provide anymore...:/ I still feel for her, and want her back but I am afraid she is playing... Let's take for granted I want her back, how should I play now, pretend that nothing has changed, hit the reset button and pretend it's our first date...pls help me Dude? Really? Why are you even asking anyone ANYTHING on this forum. You're not listening nor absorbing the advice...
NopeNah Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 After 2 days of her text, I asked her 'what exactly do you miss' Her: 'you generally soeaking!' Me:' ok we will see what we can do about it ' Her:'lol,kisses' After one hour Her:'but in order to tell you exactly...your support, your good intentions, your nice manners,your laugh, your hands, and your expensive taste' I haven't replied, I want to ask her out for a date but I m not sure, I see some good points but I also see that she misses the expensive dinners and presents as well, something I cannot provide anymore...:/ I still feel for her, and want her back but I am afraid she is playing... Let's take for granted I want her back, how should I play now, pretend that nothing has changed, hit the reset button and pretend it's our first date...pls help me This chick is USING you! 1
Author Lover1978 Posted September 24, 2016 Author Posted September 24, 2016 Of course she is playing. She knows you have no backbone and that she can use you to get whatever she wants from you. What if I break the pattern and act exactly the opposite I was used to.... Ask her to pay her drink, say no to her favors, stop the gifts and expensive restaurants, etc Wouldn't this be a test to see her true emotions and intensions and then to go NC for ever with her if she proves wrong...
NopeNah Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 What if I break the pattern and act exactly the opposite I was used to.... Ask her to pay her drink, say no to her favors, stop the gifts and expensive restaurants, etc Wouldn't this be a test to see her true emotions and intensions and then to go NC for ever with her if she proves wrong... You do that and watch how fast she leaves! She's basically a prostitute, IMO, by including "your expensive taste" in that exchange.
Author Lover1978 Posted September 24, 2016 Author Posted September 24, 2016 You do that and watch how fast she leaves! She's basically a prostitute, IMO, by including "your expensive taste" in that exchange. I will try it to prove it to myself, at least I will be sure of her true feelings
Zahara Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 What if I break the pattern and act exactly the opposite I was used to.... Ask her to pay her drink, say no to her favors, stop the gifts and expensive restaurants, etc Wouldn't this be a test to see her true emotions and intensions and then to go NC for ever with her if she proves wrong... I think she's already shown you what she thinks and how she feels about you based on your first post. You just don't want to see it. You're so desperate that if she even showed you her true intentions, which you already know what they are, you'll go back to being spineless and giving her what she wants. That's just how you're wired. 1
NopeNah Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 I will try it to prove it to myself, at least I will be sure of her true feelings Seriously... If you're intent on going down that road...please report back. Have her pay for your and her meal/drinks,ect.. Don't even look at the bill/check..slide it over to her and watch the look of disgust on her face.
sooshi Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 She misses your "expensive taste"? Seriously, OP. She doesn't care about you. It's all about her and her wants and needs. She's using you. She knows you want her and she likes having her ego fed. You're her ego feeder. Find your self-respect, block the clown, and move on from this incredibly selfish woman.
trippi1432 Posted September 26, 2016 Posted September 26, 2016 After 2 days of her text, I asked her 'what exactly do you miss' Her: 'you generally soeaking!' Me:' ok we will see what we can do about it ' Her:'lol,kisses' After one hour Her:'but in order to tell you exactly...your support, your good intentions, your nice manners,your laugh, your hands, and your expensive taste' I haven't replied, I want to ask her out for a date but I m not sure, I see some good points but I also see that she misses the expensive dinners and presents as well, something I cannot provide anymore...:/ I still feel for her, and want her back but I am afraid she is playing... Let's take for granted I want her back, how should I play now, pretend that nothing has changed, hit the reset button and pretend it's our first date...pls help me What if I break the pattern and act exactly the opposite I was used to.... Ask her to pay her drink, say no to her favors, stop the gifts and expensive restaurants, etc Wouldn't this be a test to see her true emotions and intensions and then to go NC for ever with her if she proves wrong... Perhaps you should have been just YOU to begin with? Oh...and [intentions], any man with couth, education and money could most likely spell intentions (even with a smartphone). You started the NC as a "game"......and now you want to play more games? You don't care for this woman so you should just nip it in the bud and be done with it. Unless, of course, your pride is damaged and you seek some sort of validation.....
Author Lover1978 Posted October 8, 2016 Author Posted October 8, 2016 hello, as you warned me... we went out for dinner, she was willing to pay for her share, i told her you buy us drinks after, we went to a bar, had 2 drinks, talked came intimate, i kissed her, hugs etc...then she told me to take her home, i said ok but i meant my home,,,she said no and i left her in the bus station to go to her home, 15km away...she asked me to drive her home, as i always did but refused (pattern break 1 ) I just left her and went home, 3 blocks away form there... after 10' she called to tell me that there were no buses anymore it was too late and asked me to drive her home, i told her to get a taxi or whatever, i dont care...i offered to stay at my house and she refused, after small talk she agreed to sleep in my home, i went to get her... But when we went to bed i started to kiss her and hug her but she refused, she didnt want anymore...i left her and tried back after 30'...she didnt let me either...i got mad and asked her to leave, she was shocked, she told me are you serious, in the middle of the night, (pattern breaker 2) I told her if she doesnnt feel attracted to me in a erotic way i dont want to remain friends...she told me she understands me in a way, that i feel like i dont get validation, but she couldnt help it...she said probably another time it will just come to her and see =s me as a lover...i just told her i dont care ad asked her to leave, she got dressed and went to the door, when i just made up my mind and asked her to stay as if she left it would be our last moment...she thought about it and stayed the night...she slept next to me like sister and brother, no hugs nothing and next morning she was cold, she just got dressed and left, no breakfast, no coffee, she told me in my face that it was a convenience decision to stay, as she was afraid and didnt want to spend money in taxi, so she used me , ok i let her leave...NC since then, but i am still thinking about her, did you think i was too rude, and i should have waited , she kissed me after 3 weeks of NC, first date, and probably needed time to give herself to me, or just excuses...
Kelley Posted October 8, 2016 Posted October 8, 2016 The woman has pretty much said to you twice that she doesn't find you attractive. She is using the 'it may just take time', so she can be pampered and doted on by you. After your last encounter I'm not sure she will be back, which will do you a favour. It's been a month, not every person you date progresses to love and a long term relationship that's why it is called dating. Chalk it up to experience, deal with the pain, again that's all part of a breakup (I'm there at the moment) and move on.
Zahara Posted October 8, 2016 Posted October 8, 2016 You're either completely clueless or you're just a desperate glutton for punishment. Even when you changed your so called pattern, she denied you. She does not find you attractive. She is not attracted to you. She does not want to be with you. She only wants the material things you can offer. She is repulsed by physical contact with you. She has no genuine interest in you. Short of knocking you over with a saucepan, I'm not sure what more needs to happen to get you to understand what's so simply blatant and straightforward. Move on.
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