Summer Lovin Posted September 12, 2016 Posted September 12, 2016 I went on a date with a guy, and I thought we hit it off well. It lasted 3 hours and I felt like we had great chemistry. The next day he contacted me telling me he had a great time and would like to get together again, but we didn t set up a time. We messaged a little bit more that day about our days, but no discussion about when we would meet up again. A few days later, we messaged again, and he said he's been really busy. Now two weeks have gone by and silence. I sent him a text asking how he's been, and the reply was just that he s been really busy with work. What happened? I thought everything went well and he seemed like he was interested. I'm bummed he didn't even want to give it a second one.
Redhead14 Posted September 12, 2016 Posted September 12, 2016 I went on a date with a guy, and I thought we hit it off well. It lasted 3 hours and I felt like we had great chemistry. The next day he contacted me telling me he had a great time and would like to get together again, but we didn t set up a time. We messaged a little bit more that day about our days, but no discussion about when we would meet up again. A few days later, we messaged again, and he said he's been really busy. Now two weeks have gone by and silence. I sent him a text asking how he's been, and the reply was just that he s been really busy with work. What happened? I thought everything went well and he seemed like he was interested. I'm bummed he didn't even want to give it a second one. Take it with a grain of salt. It was a nice evening at least. That's the point of dating. You go out, see if there's enough to want to keep dating, otherwise, move on. After one date, I don't expect much in terms of an explanation if they aren't interested. I figure that out when they don't ask me out again . . . so be it. I thought everything went well and he seemed like he was interested. -- Sure, things went well . . . there just wasn't enough of a connection for him. No reflection on you, no reflection on him. It is what it is. What would happen if you went out with him, had a nice time but when you got home you didn't really "feel it" for him? You wouldn't want another date, right? So be it. 2
Author Summer Lovin Posted September 12, 2016 Author Posted September 12, 2016 Yes - that's true, guess I got my hopes up when he contacted me the next day saying he would like to see each other again. Not sure what changed? I definitely have gone on first dates and didn't feel it so let it fizzle, but I liked this one.
Redhead14 Posted September 12, 2016 Posted September 12, 2016 Yes - that's true, guess I got my hopes up when he contacted me the next day saying he would like to see each other again. Not sure what changed? I definitely have gone on first dates and didn't feel it so let it fizzle, but I liked this one. Not sure what changed? -- Nothing likely changed. He wasn't feeling it but wasn't going to say that. So he gave you lip service. Yeah, it's a little bummer sometimes, but carry on. They usually give some kinda "fluff" even if they're moving on. I'd say that's mostly because they want to keep things kinda light and keep the door open so to speak, in case other options dry up and then maybe be able to circle back to her When they say that, sit back and observe whether they follow through or not.
smackie9 Posted September 12, 2016 Posted September 12, 2016 Never take it personally. There could be many reasons why they give you the 'ol I'm real busy excuse, like they got back with the ex, met someone else, changed their mind, etc. IMO if they don't schedule a date within a day or two or even at the end of the date, they are not that into you. BUT it doesn't mean you did something wrong or any less attractive, etc. You can't win them all. Better to have a nice date rather than something disastrous am I right?
Author Summer Lovin Posted September 12, 2016 Author Posted September 12, 2016 Thanks - true you can't win 'em all. I almost wish he would've just said he enjoyed meeting me, but I wasn't who he was looking for instead of he would like to hang out again. I feel a little embarrassed about putting myself out there with him. One time, a guy told me that he enjoyed meeting me, but there was someone else he was starting to see more seriously, and I've told a guy that he seemed great, but wasn't the right match for me. I prefer that over false hope. Anyway, life goes on, onto the next! It's just rare for me to find someone I feel remotely excited about after one date.
JanenotPlain Posted September 13, 2016 Posted September 13, 2016 He met someone else, and they probably started hooking up.
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