Beepr Posted September 12, 2016 Posted September 12, 2016 Hello, Last Friday my ex ended it with me because I apparently speak bad about her friends, it's a long story, however she said she can't see us being together, she said she doesn't want me and wants me to leave her alone. I pleaded for a day or two on and off and then finally just left it at "think about us and let me know" and haven't contacted her since the Sunday last week. Yesterday, a week after I ignored her, she tried to add me on snapchat, being surprised at this, my reaction was to block her. I blocked her on snapchat and although I know I shouldn't, I checked her Instagram to see whats happened and I saw that her ex had commented on her pictures, nothing flirtatious, just commented. so after that I just promised to never check her page again and if she wants me she can reach out. Today, I noticed I had a missed call from somebody, I'm not sure if this could have been her because it was "no caller ID" so, shall I just hang in with the no contact until she provides something substantial to work with? Thanks a lot 1
Mr. Karma Posted September 12, 2016 Posted September 12, 2016 however she said she can't see us being together, she said she doesn't want me and wants me to leave her alone. No contact is not a game. You should go no contact to get back on your feet. Seeing the quote above I reccon she is definitely not in to you. I think you have three options: a) stand still. wait, feel miserable and think it is her every time your phone makes a sound. a) go on your knees and phone her to find out if she still wants you back. I guess deep inside you'll know the answer to that one right? b) Simply move on. The hardest but best option. Close off, suck it up, get on your feet and heal your knees again. After a month you feel better. Trust me. 1
Author Beepr Posted September 12, 2016 Author Posted September 12, 2016 however she said she can't see us being together, she said she doesn't want me and wants me to leave her alone. No contact is not a game. You should go no contact to get back on your feet. Seeing the quote above I reccon she is definitely not in to you. I think you have three options: a) stand still. wait, feel miserable and think it is her every time your phone makes a sound. a) go on your knees and phone her to find out if she still wants you back. I guess deep inside you'll know the answer to that one right? b) Simply move on. The hardest but best option. Close off, suck it up, get on your feet and heal your knees again. After a month you feel better. Trust me. I have been using NC to heal myself, I feel so much better than I did a week ago, I understand that NC isn't primarily used to get exs back but it is a fact that sometimes it can get them to clme back in the process, I was just curious, sure if she apologised and made an effort id consider trying to work It out as we are each other's first love and mean a lot to each other, but if not I will continue NC and continue to improve myself 1
Satu Posted September 12, 2016 Posted September 12, 2016 I wrote this in my journal today: Trying to make your ex want you, is like trying to make them eat a pickle. "Eat this pickle." "No thanks." "Go on eat it, it's delicious." "No thanks, I don't want it." "It's a better pickle. It's been improved since the last time you ate one." "I just don't want it." "Give it a chance, you'll like it." "You're really starting to annoy me now." "Why don't you realise how much this pickle wants you to eat it. Just give it a try. Is that too much too ask?" "Yes, it is! Shut up! Go away!" "But..." "Go away!" You can't make somebody want you. Take care. 3
Mr. Karma Posted September 12, 2016 Posted September 12, 2016 Briljant post Satu! Very funny but o so very true. @Beepr: if you are curious call her and find out. You probably bump your nose but at least you know where you are standing. Trying to get into her head what she thinks can make you grazy and prevents you from moving on. Moving on is hard but it is a direction. And you are driving on the right road but with the wrong intentions. If she comes to her sences she will find a way to contact you. But the changes are slim and if so your relationship will never be the same. Been there, done that and got a very ugly t-shirt I would recommend to write the following line on a post-it and stick it on your mirror. 'Never, never ever become a pickles salesman' 1
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