Les7 Posted September 12, 2016 Posted September 12, 2016 My ex and I broke up about a month ago after being together for a little over a year. We've been in NC since then except for a few cringe worthy text exchanges that occurred a week or so after the break-up. The relationship wasn't healthy. My ex suffered from depression and refused to get help. I began to feel drained because I was giving more than he was capable of giving back. Plus I caught him in multiple lies and naturally had a really tough time trusting him. I kept having a gut feeling that something was off and had suspicions that he was cheating. I couldn't ignore it anymore. He broke up with me however when I tried to bring it up. I know ending it was for the best. But given all of this, I'm still having a really hard time dealing with the loss. I miss him. I miss him a lot. He was such a huge part of my life and it feels awful and unnatural to stop all interactions. Knowing him, he's probably moved on like none of this even mattered. I thought after a month I'd feel a little better but honestly it's still raw and part of me is hoping he'll contact me. I don't want to think or feel this way. I realize nothing good will come out of it. Why is this so freakin hard? What can I do to make it easier?
CarrieT Posted September 12, 2016 Posted September 12, 2016 Everyone heals at different rates... The ending of a toxic 2 1/2-year relationship that brought me to this site in 2008 took me a full two years to get over. Don't beat yourself up that you are still hurting. Give yourself the space a latitude to grieve the loss of the relationship without a self-imposed timeline. 2
Marco Valerio Posted September 12, 2016 Posted September 12, 2016 Hi friend, Why is it hard? Well, because you love him, that's why. You care about him. He has rented a place in your heart and mind. Don't worry for the amount of pain, or the difficulty of moving on. It's completely normal. Just continue doing what's best for you.
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