Jayvalentino Posted September 11, 2016 Posted September 11, 2016 (edited) So basically my ex is from South Africa. She had a bad past with a lot but when she came here I was the first to be her true friend and lover. We're both 16. When I met her she was as quiet as ever but I made her feel comfortable around me and everyone else I knew. We dated and she started telling me secrets and how much she loved me. She told me that I was the one she wanted and that she didn't want to let me go. Me being the guy I am, I did my absolute best to make her happy. Doing things like walking an hour away to buy her a card and rose, carrying her home when she was sick multiple times, and helping her pass her finals with flying colors. We had a strong connection, I loved her truly, guys wanted her for sex but I told her I loved her for herself and nothing more. She dumped me during our first month long distance on July 27th. That day she was acting weird and off, I asked if she was all right and she said okay. Later on she texted me "I want to love you forever and be your wife". That same night she said " I can't, I think being alone is best for me" She said her emotions and mind wasn't in the right place and that she still wants to get back together afterwards. She mentioned that she was upset about it because I'm everything she ever wanted and that she doesn't want me to move on. So I was cool with it, glad that I was able to help support her and everything but everyday she became more distant from me, and the only time I can get hours of conversation out of her would have to do with sex. Told her that I want to talk about more about her than sex, after that night we stopped talking. Fast forward to now, she barely talks to me, and she's been different. She went from dressing plain and simple to very glamorous. I don't moan and complain, I still want to be in her life but its like after all I've done for her, being the one she wanted, it feels like I'm just a stranger. Will she miss what I've done for her? Is there a chance I can get her back? Listen I did nothing wrong trust me! I did things like ditch baseball games for her, spent every minute with her before we moved. Loved her through the worst of times. When we skyped late I made sure she slept before I did so I know she's asleep and safe. 4 months. But every moment counted. She claim I didn't trust her but i my secrets were things that would've made her not like me, but I told her anyway. Idk, will she want to come back to this eventually? What should I do? Keep in contact or not? Will she miss the effort I put in for her? How could she.... Edited September 11, 2016 by Jayvalentino
smackie9 Posted September 11, 2016 Posted September 11, 2016 This is pretty normal stuff for a 16 year old. Most relationships are short and definitely not forever. What happen was the distance, the confidence you gave her by your desire for her, and now that you are no longer around, she is receiving attention from other guys. It's all going to her head. She feels independent, attractive and popular....she is cutting you loose to pursue this new chapter in her life. I hate to say this but most likely no she will not be back. Heartbreak is just part of growing up. You are best to move on......I feel it's just going to happen anyways.
mikeylo Posted September 11, 2016 Posted September 11, 2016 If long distance doesn't become short, break up is inevitable, especially at such a young age. How old are you ?
mortensorchid Posted September 11, 2016 Posted September 11, 2016 Listen, she (and probably you) are both 16. You're not mature enough despite what you think about each other or yourselves. You both have a lot of things you need to experience and see before you have a life partner. And I have some news for you as well, you're going to be in love more times than you think. I think you both need to move on from this situation, you'll be happier eventually. 1
Author Jayvalentino Posted September 11, 2016 Author Posted September 11, 2016 Seriously? This sucks.... Not even a a chance.
joseb Posted September 11, 2016 Posted September 11, 2016 Seriously? This sucks.... Not even a a chance. A chance of what? Getting into a serious relationship when you are too young and missing out on the best years of your life? Maybe, but why do that to yourself? You are both changing a lot at such a young age. Neither of you is ready for a relationship. Be thankful for the nice bit you had at the start, and move on.
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