Does finding your boyfriend annoying means something is wrong?

[Little Bird]

I've been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years now, and most of it has been long distance. We keep in touch and visit each other every 2 months, and he is moving back this month which is great.

 

However, I find that even when I visit him and when we talk, there are times when I find the things he says or does really annoying.

 

For example, when I try to have a serious conversation about something, he will all of a sudden crack some weird joke about what I just said, which derails my whole train of thought. It's not funny, and makes no sense to me when the whole tone of what I was saying was serious. Even if it's about something as simple as me telling him about a book I read, he will interrupt me to crack a joke that makes no sense. It's very jarring.

 

Also, he can be very juvenile, like one time we were in an art museum looking at works by my favourite sculptor (I majored in art history), and he was cracking a joke about the penis on one of the nude sculptures. It totally ruined the mood for me. And he knows how much I love sculpture and art, so I don't know why he started making fun of the sculptures.

 

I never say anything, just move on, and ignore it, because I don't want to make him feel like there's something wrong with him, and I don't want to hurt his feelings, but at times like these, I feel so annoyed, it makes me feel like I'd rather not be around him at that moment. Usually the feeling passes, but when it happens I feel so irritated.

 

Is this just part of being in a long term relationship? Eventually your partner will sometimes annoy you like crazy? Most likely I do things that annoy him too, and I just don't know about it.

 

I just assume compatible couples don't annoy each other that much.

 

I'm also afraid that once we go from being long-distance to living together, problems will happen because we are just not used to being around each other all the time.

[CarrieT]

Yes.

 

The fact that you are starting to find him annoying means you are growing up and maturing and realizing that he is not.

 

In short, you are growing apart from one another and the writing is on the wall that the relationship is almost over.

 

Soon your annoyance will turn into disrespect and the love will disappear.

[Nowty V]

How awesome is Petite danseuse de quatorze ans by Edgar Degas?

 

Or Dali's Lobster Telephone?

 

Or .. Michelangelo's David in the Uffizi?

 

I drool just thinking about them

 

Moving in with this fellow may be trouble, CarrieT has it nailed.

[lazcas]

If you find him annoying now, it would only get a lot worse with you two being together for more time. You are right by saying that normal couples don't find each other that annoying, a person may annoy you at times, that is normal, but you seem to dislike a lot of things about your boyfriend and I don't blame you at all, he doesn't sound like a pleasant man to be around.