zacccczac Posted September 11, 2016 Posted September 11, 2016 We started dating right after she broke up with her 2.5 years boyfriend. We were really close friends before so we hit it off extremely well. After the first date I asked her if I'm just a rebound and she said I'm definitely not and, not having much experience, I trusted her. I have been so closed off to other people but then I found her and it was indescribable. Everything was going really fast, and I just put my guard down and let the relationship quickly took over my world. Now I'm studying away in Europe and for the past three weeks I sensed that there are more and more things are going wrong, we are more and more disconnected. Yesterday was my birthday and she told me she didn't know if she like me romantically anymore and she has been hooking up with another guy. And my whole world just collapsed and I have sunk into deep depression. I can't eat anything and I can't fall asleep. I don't want to cut her off because despite everything she's still my best friend. I don't know anything anymore 1
FTM042014 Posted September 11, 2016 Posted September 11, 2016 Hey man, I'm sorry you are going through this. It really hurts I know. I've experienced it myself. In the future know that even though someone may truly believe they are not rebounding and may not fully be aware of it, they are. Whether it ended well or not it takes time to move on from a breakup. Be weary of those that do not take the proper time to themselves. That break in between partners is crucial. If a woman does not understand the importance of that time to herself then she probably is not emotionally mature enough to handle a relationship. And I don't care how long her previous relationship lasted. Just know that in this situation it has nothing to do with you or anything you did wrong. Place your trust in a woman only after taking your time and knowing from her actions and not just her words that she is ready. 2
Satu Posted September 11, 2016 Posted September 11, 2016 Sorry that you're hurting. It might not seem so just now, but you will get over this. Learn to recognise someone who is on the rebound; asking someone if they are is pointless, and won't tell you anything. You need to be able to recognise it. Any relationship formed just after a breakup, is guaranteed to be a rebound. Make a note of that for future reference. Also be aware that the desperation in someone immediately after a breakup, can seem like love and passion, but is really just desperation. Lick your wounds, cry your tears, rage against fate, and let her go. You will love and be loved again. Take care. 2
SixxChick Posted September 12, 2016 Posted September 12, 2016 Any relationship formed just after a breakup, is guaranteed to be a rebound. Make a note of that for future reference. Emphasis added.
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