Rejected couple of months ago, now have fear to approach the another girl

[Constantine93]

Well, as the title says that is pretty much the situation. Couple of months ago, the girl I was in love with (for around a year) rejected me and I went through a tough period after that. My history of depression for more than 3 years didn't help either. However, several days ago, I was hanging out with my friends and there I met another girl who caught my attention. We haven't talked much while we were in group, however, we were going in the same direction after that and I accompanied her to home, because it was late and she wasn't so indifferent with whether to go home alone or with someone, and I really didn't mind taking a walk with a beautiful girl. Then we talked, all the way, and I found that we are surprisingly very similar in many ways, and that she is also a very interesting person. Nothing special happened, we walked and were talking all the time, when we got to her place I got a hug and a kiss on the cheek, nothing special, though it made me happy. I saw her again today, I am really happy I did, but something was off. I don't know if it is just my imagination or my guts, but, she talked with another girl, our mutual friend, and a very good friend of mine, almost the whole time while I was just occasionally put in the conversation, and even when our friend wasn't around she wasn't almost at all talking, and because of fear after rejection I for some reason didn't have guts to pressure the conversation. Maybe Its just my imagination or fear because of previous disappointment, but I fear that she got some kind of weird vibe from me or maybe I just let my fear to paralyze me. I know that I met her only once before that, but still she was very communicative on the way home, don't know whether the reason was because we were in group now, or something else. Now I am uncertain what should I do. I mean, I would like to take a chance with this girl, you know, I would really like to know her better. But I don't know what should I do. Today we talked about 80% less than we did 7 days ago, what if the next time it will be even less talk between us. I simply don't have guts now to try texting her, so I don't know whether should I ask my friend for help, or simply leave all of this because I feel that I will become attached to this girl, and I simply don't know if I can take another disappointment. And how do I handle this paralyzing fear, I mean it is retarded, I was ****ing scared like when I was talking to the I girl I liked in the 4. grade of elementary school, which was 12 years ago... So I ask you for advice now.

 

P.S. Sorry for grammatical mistakes, English is not my first language.

[smackie9]

First off stop being in love with girls you are not in a relationship with. Second, if you find a girl that you "like" just ask her out on a date. It's a better process to date someone and develop feelings accordingly. Don't put them up on a pedestal!