kissed Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 So this guy I am really in to was encouraging me to go on tinder and I was confused as it probably signified he wasn't into me which kind of went against the body language I though I was seeing from him standing close to me, sitting opposite me all the time in a male dominant position, helping me out with stuff, playful gentle hitting on arm. If he's in a bar and I walk in I can tell he knows I'm there and by the end of the night he has appeared next to me 'to say hi'. The tinder stuff started off when I asked him straight up if he had met his 'hot date' on tinder. He had not told me about it before then. He then started going 'oh why don't you go on tinder, it's fun.' I mean he KEPT telling me to do tinder. So I told him I was, which I am, and now he won't give up on it. Everytime he sees me he starts talking to me about something else and then as he is walking off casually goes 'so been on tinder dates recently?' Or he'll go 'are you going on a tinder date this week?' Or if a message comes through on my cell he'll wink and say loudly 'tinder?'. I see this guy almost every day as he is my cousins boyfriends cousin and every single time we meet -almost every day- it is the same question. I'm beginning to think that this is weird, if you had zero interest in somebody why would you be so obsessed with their dating life? I don't ask him about his tinder dates, mainly because I don't want to hear about his random hookups and I'd feel jealous. But then if I do tell him about some guy on tinder who doesn't seem like my type he'll be like 'oh you so picky you should give him a chance' and last time he went 'girls think they can pick guys like in a catalog' I actually think that is what he does on tinder not me. I am trying to get a flavor of personality. Also, I know he is dating casual for now (through my cousins boyfriend) Could this be the issue? That he likes me and is not looking for a relationship? What is with the mixed signals? I assume that is what they are.
smackie9 Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 You shouldn't give a crap about this tool. Next time just blow him off and keep walking.
leogirl876 Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 He sounds like a douche! And let's just say he does like you, he obviously has no game if this is how he goes about showing you he likes you. Stop obsessing about this guy, nothing's changed. When I saw the thread update I was thinking it was gonna be something like "he finally asked me out" but that's not the case. He's a douche and you should forget about him!
Miss Clavel Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 So this guy I am really in to was encouraging me to go on tinder and I was confused as it probably signified he wasn't into me which kind of went against the body language I though I was seeing from him standing close to me, sitting opposite me all the time in a male dominant position, helping me out with stuff, playful gentle hitting on arm. If he's in a bar and I walk in I can tell he knows I'm there and by the end of the night he has appeared next to me 'to say hi'. The tinder stuff started off when I asked him straight up if he had met his 'hot date' on tinder. He had not told me about it before then. He then started going 'oh why don't you go on tinder, it's fun.' I mean he KEPT telling me to do tinder. So I told him I was, which I am, and now he won't give up on it. Everytime he sees me he starts talking to me about something else and then as he is walking off casually goes 'so been on tinder dates recently?' Or he'll go 'are you going on a tinder date this week?' Or if a message comes through on my cell he'll wink and say loudly 'tinder?'. I see this guy almost every day as he is my cousins boyfriends cousin and every single time we meet -almost every day- it is the same question. I'm beginning to think that this is weird, if you had zero interest in somebody why would you be so obsessed with their dating life? I don't ask him about his tinder dates, mainly because I don't want to hear about his random hookups and I'd feel jealous. But then if I do tell him about some guy on tinder who doesn't seem like my type he'll be like 'oh you so picky you should give him a chance' and last time he went 'girls think they can pick guys like in a catalog' I actually think that is what he does on tinder not me. I am trying to get a flavor of personality. Also, I know he is dating casual for now (through my cousins boyfriend) Could this be the issue? That he likes me and is not looking for a relationship? What is with the mixed signals? I assume that is what they are. there is no issue. he is not interested in you in any way. sorry. if he was he would take you to the bar, with him, not come over to you after you arrive. if he wanted to see you he could find you on tinder, bang you, dump you and go back on tinder and he's not even doing that. he asks you about tinder because he's socially inept. as in stupid. as in self centered to the max. tinder is just about the only thing he knows about you or has in common with you. and, fwiw, i think he rags you about tinder because he believes the women on tinder are ho's that think they have a choice(like a catalog). sorry. 1
Author kissed Posted September 10, 2016 Author Posted September 10, 2016 Point taken I'm going to start ignoring him and not replying to his ridiculous comments and also get off tinder and give a serious dating website a try. 1
Miss Clavel Posted September 12, 2016 Posted September 12, 2016 Point taken I'm going to start ignoring him and not replying to his ridiculous comments and also get off tinder and give a serious dating website a try. that's such good news. he sounds like a wannabe player. it's very exciting to be with a player. good times, great sex. i have the scars to prove it.
Erik30 Posted September 12, 2016 Posted September 12, 2016 I don't think he's interested at all, almost seems like someone told him you're into him, so now he's trying to point you to other guys. Or.. he has Tinder stocks. 1
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